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thelongrun
09-25-2008, 03:08 PM
Hi all! I wanted to share this I got from a friend with you folks, may help you never know:


"BE SAFE!!!!!!!!!..........



First of all, I realize this email is rather long, but it does have some important information which may help keep you and your families, friends, safer.
Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)


Please pass it along and share it with your children.

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they
look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They
are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other
hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also
likely to go after a woman with long hair . Women with short hair are not common
targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around
specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their
purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and
can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store
parking lots. The number two: office parking lots/garages. Number three: public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and
quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about
getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

http://www.eaglesfans.com/forum/images/smiles/icon_cool.gif If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because
it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't
worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other
similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

Keys are NOT a deterrent because you have to get really close to the
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're
not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following
behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell,
look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it?, or
make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,' 'We're in
for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a
line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you
and yell STOP! or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said
they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to
fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it
and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding
it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by
outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the
attacker either under the Arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing
trouble and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans : If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This
has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a
gun to your head, and tell you where to go.
AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF,
repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking
the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they
will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5 A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side
floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car
from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling
them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their
cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the
passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you
may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to
walk you back out.

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better
paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are
horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at
NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!
The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even
then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a
zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic:
STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking,
well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He
walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or
with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a
crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because
it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you
do, DO NOT open the door.'

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window,
and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The
policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT
open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry
recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone
dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several
calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when
they're home alone at night.

Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby --- This
should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory as mentioned on
America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in
Louisiana.
I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life.
A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this
to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well."

Priscilla Sackett,
Nogales, AZ.

tbs fanatic
09-26-2008, 02:15 PM
Thanks. Lots of good ideas there.

Mrs Henley
09-30-2008, 03:56 PM
Thanks!

tbs fanatic
09-30-2008, 05:05 PM
I tried the 'pinching them under the arm' idea on my six footer son :lol: I have to say it worked (though I didn't pinch too hard). He's like 'What the heck, MOM!!!'. I said 'This is important. I'm testing some self defense moves.' Needless to say he kept away from me for the rest of the weekend :thumbsup:

ticky
09-30-2008, 05:16 PM
heheeheh tbs *G* good move!! I'll have to remember that for dealing with unruley teenagers!!
another is grabbing and pinching the folded knuckle of the pinky. or just grabbing the pinky and bending it back.. its the weakest part of the body and its amazing how quickly they'll fold with a little pressure (bad guys, not teenagers.. altho...)*G*

Glennsallnighter
10-01-2008, 04:47 AM
This is very interesting TLR. Thank you for posting it! I have relatively long hair and so will be careful how I style it going out, and also waht clothing to wear, and will advise my daughter the same.

Some very interesting insights.