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Glennsallnighter
11-24-2008, 06:43 PM
May I too send you my condolences on the death of your Uncle Nancy. I will keep all of your family in my thoughts and prayers. What a rotten time to lose somebody (although no time is ever really good)

tbs fanatic
11-24-2008, 06:45 PM
Had to go to my younger son's IEP review today. They are worried about High School (he is in Junior High). Our High School does not have 'contained classrooms' - which is what he is in now. So they are wondering how to get him ready for regular classes and are thinking about a 'therapeutic classroom' at our local mental health center. Of course that let's them off the hook on getting him ready for regular classrooms :roll:. Don't get me started on schools and the mentally challenged :enraged:

Freypower
11-24-2008, 08:04 PM
Deepest sympathy from me also Nancy.

sodascouts
11-24-2008, 10:05 PM
Thanks for the sympathies, everybody.

TBSF - I'm sorry that they're giving you and your son the runaround with those "therapeutic classes."

GlennLover
11-24-2008, 11:41 PM
My condolences to you & your family Nancy. Also to those of you who have lost a loved one recently.

I hadn't been following this post until now. My husband lost his cousin a couple of weeks ago. She was only in her mid 60's. She was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer 2 weeks ago Tuesday and died that Saturday. Life can be so fragile. We just never know, and I guess that it is a good thing that we don't.

TimothyBFan
11-25-2008, 08:38 AM
tbsf-good luck with your son and the school. Sounds like you might have a bit of a fight ahead of you with the school.

Peekaboo
11-29-2008, 08:10 PM
My heart goes out to you Nancy and all those that have lost someone dear to them as well as to those that are dealing with illness in their family. Stay strong and always know that you have friends here on the Border that support you. It's wonderful to know that there good hearted people on here and the support is amazing. Earlier this week I had a big falling out with someone in my family that I was very close to and knowing that things will never be the same hurts more than words can say. I hadn't seen or talked to this person in over a year. They hurt my heart once and i gave them a second chance but it didn't turn out the way I had hoped. I'm trying to take my own advice and be strong but I realize that it's easier said than done but i'm working on it.

"I'm learning to live without you now, but i miss you sometimes. The more I know, the less I understand. All the things I thought I knew, I'm learning again." Don Henley-Heart of the Matter

Glennsallnighter
11-29-2008, 08:44 PM
Oh PaB I'm sorry things worked out like that for you. At least you can come here when you are feeling down. :hug:

chaleymom
11-30-2008, 12:21 AM
Wow.... this is the first time I've read this thread....

My heart and prayers go out to all of you here who are going through difficult times. As hard as the difficult times are to handle - I try really hard to keep the mantra "the Lord never gives me anything I can't handle" and "I can do all things through the Lord who strengthens me."

Not to turn this into a Sunday school class - but I've found I HAVE to keep telling myself those things in order to keep some sanity. After reading all of these posts, I have to say - it's comforting to know that I am not alone in situations I'm dealing with. Both of my parents are in their 80's and in the past year, I've become the parent..... (and I'm still parenting my own children.) Mom was diagnosed with Altzheimers 2 years ago - and although she's still doing pretty well for the most part, we had to make the decision to move her to Assisted Living - simply because we were afraid of what could happen if she stayed at home. My daughter found the gas stove left on one day while we were there. I've started attending an Atzheimers support group meeting every Tuesday and I find them to be a Godsend. It also reminds me that things could be so much worse than they are. It's also taught me to appreciate the time I do still have with my parents. I've come to realize that Altzheimers is truly 'a long goodbye". It's very sad to see mom losing her memory and knowing that someday she may not know me anymore. Those are the thoughts I try not to let slip in very often. Dad is still living at home by himself because he refuses to give up his home - although he misses mom terribly. He is a great worry to me because each time he doesn't answer his phone, I fear he has fallen down the steps or worse. So although I worry about both of them constantly, I also thank God that I still have them, and I pray that He keeps them safe.

On a lighter note (since this thread is about what's happening in our lives) as I posted on another thread - this has also been a GOOD year. A son I gave up for adoption 30 years ago found me 4 months ago - due to the wonders of the internet and an adoption site I registered on several years ago. We met for the first (well SECOND time!) time July 20 and I knew at that moment that one of my prayers had been answered. The added blessing - he has a wife and a sweet one year old baby girl (she actually turned one on the day we connected for the first time). We discovered that for the past 30 years we've only been within 2 hours of each other. He looks a whole lot like his dad - and my brother (who also met him) said his daughter looks a lot like me when I was her age. Most of my family has met them (we got together on Labor Day) and it was truly an indescribable feeling to see my parents meet their firstborn grandson - AND their first great-grandchild. My other two kids have told me they never want to have children - so, despite that - it looks like I am a grandma afterall! My son (Dan) and I have pledged to see each other as often as we can. I told him I let him go once, and I'm not ever letting him go again.

I've posted way too much here.... I guess I was just in the spirit of Thanksgiving - and wanted to share this with all of you.

Thanks for being there to listen!

Wildthyme
11-30-2008, 01:19 AM
Congrats CM on finding your son and grandchild. I am sure that truly was something to give thanks for on Thanksgiving!

As for my life... just when you think you are starting to get things figured out the unexpected happens... A while back I posted about my impending job loss. After giving it much thought I had pretty much decided that I would leave Southern Oregon and make a fresh start in Portland or even move to the Oregon coast where I have always dreamed of living. Well over Thanksgiving my niece Ashley announced she was pregnant. Ashley is like my own child because in the early years of her life I helped my sister raise her and the two of us have always shared a special bond. At that point in time I thought it was all great practice for when I had my own kids. What I didn't know was I would never have children. Well now Ashley is pregnant with a baby that is going to be the closest thing to a grandchild I will ever have. I want to be here to see my great niece or nephew as much as I can and to build the kind of relationship with this child that I have with their mother and with my other niece and nephews. So here I sit trying to decide what to do again...

sodascouts
11-30-2008, 03:26 PM
Again, thanks for the support, guys. The funeral was Saturday and it was a hard time, but everyone shared happy memories and it helped. My uncle was a hilarious guy - always telling corny jokes but with a such a great delivery that you laughed anyway (kind of like Glenn, lol). At his eulogy, his best friend started telling some of them again - "Did you hear about the dog who licked up an entire gallon of gasoline? He ran around and around and then just fell over." "Did he die?" "Nah, he just ran out of gas." - it had us all laughing. It was nice.

Peekaboo - I'm sorry to hear about the falling out. One thing about family feuds is that time can be a healer. Hopefully it will in your case as well.

chaleymom - how wonderful about finding your son! I too pray a lot when I feel stressed or blessed - the "Please help!" vs. "Thanks!" It definitely comforts me.

WT - Ah, hard decisions! My advice: I know you said you want to be involved as much as possible, but I bet you could still be a part of their lives even if you live a couple hours away. However, only you can decide what's best for you, obviously!

Troubadour
11-30-2008, 04:13 PM
I'm so sorry for the loss of your loved ones, Nancy & GL. There's nothing I can say to ease the sadness, but just know that we are all here for you, whenever you need to talk, vent or just take your mind off things. I'm glad the funeral went as well as it could have done, Nancy. I lost my uncle not so long ago and the funeral affected me much more than I'd expected it to (I was in floods as soon as I walked into the church) but it was something that most definitely helped with the grieving process. Of course it was a chance to say goodbye, but it was also great to hear some of the funny stories about my uncle - some of which I'd never heard before. I realised how important an individual can be and how much of a difference one person can make to the lives of many family and friends. It's never easy, but shared memories are wonderful things. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

Cami, I hope you come to a decision that makes you happy. You're right, life is very strange! The news must have thrown you for a loop. But I'm tempted to echo what Nancy said - a couple of hours isn't too far in the grand scheme of things. I'm sure if you want to be involved, you'll find a way. Congratulations to your niece.

Kim, it was great to hear some more about you. Wow, what examples of how complex life can be! I am thrilled you are in contact with your son and granddaughter. That first meeting must have been beyond words. I'll keep you and your parents in my thoughts. It must be very hard for you, but it was heartening to read how positive you are and how much you are thankful for.

Jess, I'm really sorry to hear about your family troubles. I had difficulties with a family member over the past year, and it is just horrible. It really made me sad remembering family Christmasses and birthdays with this person, and knowing that it would never be quite the same again. I really hope things look brighter soon. Hang in there. If you ever want to chat, I'm here. And the lyric you posted sums things up for me. (He's got sense, that guy!) Life is hard, but just stay strong and stick to your guns. There will always be people who care.

Life is good in general at the moment, although I haven't been too well lately. Nothing serious, I've just felt a bit down and more emotional than I usually am. (A combination of the weather, sickness and tiredness!) Work is fantastic though, and I've really noticed in the past few weeks how much more confident I am in terms of dealing with the service users. I have learnt so much about disability and working with challenging behaviour already - I'll never regret taking this job, no matter how long I'm there.

My Dad died in November 1999, and if I'm honest, I've been a bit down lately because of that. I can't believe it's nearly ten years since he passed away. It's not a raw pain, but occasionally it gets me and it hurts that I never got to know him as well as I'd have liked to. I love talking about him with my family and looking at photos, but I sometimes get that sinking feeling when it suddenly hits you that you'll never, ever see a particular person again. It's hard. But, again, I have so much to be thankful for. I have a WONDERFUL family and it's nice to be able to enjoy them more at the moment, as I'm living close to them again. We're going to visit my sister and her boyfriend next weekend, so I'm looking forward to that. I think a bit of a girly chat and some Christmas shopping will be just what I need!

DonFan
11-30-2008, 05:12 PM
Originally posted by Troubadour:
"My Dad died in November 1999, and if I'm honest, I've been a bit down lately because of that. I can't believe it's nearly ten years since he passed away. It's not a raw pain, but occasionally it gets me and it hurts that I never got to know him as well as I'd have liked to. I love talking about him with my family and looking at photos, but I sometimes get that sinking feeling when it suddenly hits you that you'll never, ever see a particular person again. It's hard. But, again, I have so much to be thankful for. I have a WONDERFUL family."

I know exactly how you feel, Troub. It has been four years since I lost my Dad and although we have all made our peace with the fact that he is gone, I still want to talk to him and hear his sweet voice again. He was my greatest supporter. Since I was laid off earlier this year and have been looking for a full-time job, I have missed him even more than usual. He was a bank manager for over 40 years, and at the visitation before his funeral dozens of people came up to me and told me what a kind, compassionate boss he was. I have wished over and over that I could talk to him about my work situation and hear his sound advice.

I don't think I really understood deep grief untill I lost my Dad. A friend gave me this quote by Kahlil Gabran that I would like to pass along for everyone who has lost a loved one:

"Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding."

(And I loved that gas joke from your uncle's funeral, Nancy.)

Littlemelly9
11-30-2008, 05:19 PM
My family is having a big fued it's been going on since last year and now I can not see my god son or any of my other family, because my parents do not want to get involved with it.

I'm sorry Troubadour For your loss, may you all be blessed.

TimothyBFan
11-30-2008, 06:15 PM
PB--don't give up hope on that person, maybe they will come around. If there is one thing I've learned, especially the last couple of years, family is everything. After almost a year of not speaking to each other, my husband and his sister are making the effort to put all the ugly things that were said to each other in a heated moment, all because of another member of the family, aside and get their relationship back on track. Maybe it will happen for you also.

Welcome back Nancy. My thoughts were with you this weekend. I knew it wouldn't be easy for you, especially this time of the year.

CM--So wonderful for you to find your son with a couple added bonuses of a daughter in law and grandchild.

Glennsallnighter
11-30-2008, 09:16 PM
Soda! Once again let me sympathise with you on the loss of your uncle. At least by attending the funeral you were able to celebrate his life and th happier parts of it. I hope it brought you some measure of healing.

CM, What wonderful news about meeting your son and your grandchild for the first time earlier this year. It must have been such an experience. I sympathise with you on the situation with your parents. It is hard to see people who were strong and capable starting to lose control of their lives and their homes. I have been lucky so far in that my mom and dad aged 74 and 82 respectively still have all their mental faculties, although my dad has slowed physically over the last while, but you never know whats around the corner with them. Meanwhile my FIL lives on his own and my hubby is always worried when he doesn't answer the phone or isn't in touch.

LM. I hope the family situation resolves itself and that you will see your godson soon. It my seem harsh, but I'm sure your parents have sound reasons for not getting involved.

Troub and DF, I'm sure one never really gets over losing a parent, and always thinks of the discussions that you could have had if they were still with us. But I'm sure your dads are helping you both in ways that you aren't even aware of. DF I hope you get a fulltime job soon. Troub, I hope you regain job your full health although this is tricky in this cold weather.

WT, I'm delighted to hear your great news about your neice. I hope her pregnancy goes well. She is lucky that you are prepared to give her so much help.

I'm supposed to start my new job properly tomorrow. I'll be interviewing parents of 9 month old children having already done training. Problem is I have an unbelieveably bad cold and chest infection, so I dunno! Its freezing in this part of the world as well which doesn't help. Wht I'd really love would be a day in bed, some HOT drinks, A Good Eagles DVD and plenty of TLC! But that aint sonna happen.

Please bear with me if I am not on the board much over the next few weeks. Hubby has leave to take from the job and has 3 weeks off from tomorrow morning. I'll be depending on when (or if) he gets overtime calls to get on. Also we are all going to Budapest towards the end of next week for 3 days. But I'll be thinking of you all and wishing you all the best. I will continue to pray for those of us who are experiencing difficulties at the moment.

eaglesvet
12-01-2008, 03:50 AM
This is not a thread I usually read, so I'm soorry to say I was not aware of everyone's difficulties. I became teary-eyed after reading PB's post that ended with Don's verse. My condolences go out to all of you who have lost a loved one. And I can truly empathize with those of you who are either separated from family members or are caring for elderly parents. After my mom died 20 yrs ago at the age of 58, my dad just up and sold the house my brother and I grew up in and moved to Poland (my mother's and his parents' homeland). He remarried (twice), and only returns to visit his kids and now grandkids every few years. The most recent was summer '07 for 3 mos. in order to take care of multiple significant medical problems that had either gone undiagnosed or improperly treated in Poland. For those 3 mos., my only mission was his medical care. I brought him to 9 different specialists, had him hospitalized once when needed, then transferred to a rehabilitation center, finally ending with outpatient physical therapy. At the end of his stay here, he looked and felt 10 years younger, and I knew that wouldn't have been possible without me and my brother working so diligently. Unfortunately, my dad (who is 84) felt he had to return to Poland where his wife is also not so healthy, where the medical care is substandard to ours, and where they live on the 4th floor of a building with no elevators. Just from speaking with him on the phone, we know his health has deteriorated again simply because he does not follow the recommendations made to him by his doctors last summer, nor does he keep up with the meds prescribed here in the US. The Polish advice and meds were responsible for part of his problems to begin with; and he has drifted back into that trap again, seemingly not realizing how foolish that is. But, given that he is so far away, we have accepted the fact that we can't help him anymore than he is willing to help himself. Also, we all have to realize that God is there to guide all of us through life, even if we don't understand His ways. We just need to have faith in Him.

tbs fanatic
12-01-2008, 11:44 AM
Oh my gosh, so much going on. I'm too behind to comment on all but I'm thinking of you. We received some sobering news this weekend. A friend (who is only in her 50's) has been diagnosed with early onset dementia. Can you imagine? We can't believe it. Thankfully her children are now grown but it is very hard for them as you can imagine. She was a very smart and vibrant person. It's such a tragedy. It really makes you think about making the most of every day because you just don't know what's coming at you. I keep telling my boys this although I'm sure it's falling on deaf ears.

Brooke
12-01-2008, 04:59 PM
Oh my, I'm so very behind here. All of you going through hard times, just know I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Soda, I'm so sorry about your uncle's sudden passing. And so unexpectedly and so young.

Pb, I'm sorry about your troubles.

Chaleymom, how wonderful that your son found you and that you now have a grandchild. I am also sorry about your Mom.

Wt, best of luck making that important decision.

I've been through quite a trying time myself. I hardly had time to morn my dear m-i-l for dealing with my Dad's problems. He's been in 3 hospitals within a week and all we seem to do is hurry up and wait! Last Wednesday he fell and broke 8 ribs on his left side. He was in such pain that my Mother feared he would have another stroke and took him to the nearest ER. To make a long story short, they did an MRI and found that he has a brain tumor. Since he is a veteran, they needed to get him to the nearest Veteran's hospital which is 2 hours away. (This is because that is the only insurance they have.) It took us 4 days in the local hospital to get him transferred there. They didn't have a neurosurgeon at the VA hospital, so they sent him to the University hospital across the street for evaluation there. That took another 23 hours! Just to go across the street. I have never seen such an ordeal and red tape! They finally did a biopsy on the brain tumor last Tuesday. We are still waiting for the results what with the holiday and weekend! We do know now that he did not have a stroke after all. His symptoms were caused by the tumor. They are giving him medication to reduce the swelling for the time being and meds for the pain of the broken ribs. For days there he could hardly move without screaming in pain from the broken ribs. He is getting better and is in pretty good spirits, but the waiting is getting awful. Mom is trying to stay with him and her health is not great either. My sister, brother and I are taking turns going and being with them. All they want to do now is come home, but he just can't. Finally, today the therapist told them he was just not ready and sent him back to the VA hospital for probably a week to take more therapy. I really don't know if he will improve enough to come home again. By then we should at least know how to combat the tumor. Surgery at his age is not an option. So, all in all, things are not looking good for him.

They wanted a quiet day on Thanksgiving, so we all stayed home. Hubby and I went to the grocery store and ordered the turkey and trimmings for our dinner as all of his siblings had gone to their in-laws and our kids couldn't come back home as they had just been there for his Mom's funeral. Not a Thanksgiving to remember for us.

tbs fanatic
12-01-2008, 05:50 PM
I'm so sorry to hear that. :cry: Your poor Dad. I can almost feel his pain and frustration in the way you describe it all.

eaglesvet
12-01-2008, 06:07 PM
Brooke, I'm very sorry to hear all of that.

Glennsallnighter
12-01-2008, 06:25 PM
Gosh Brooke that is very hard on yourself and your family. I hope things improve for your dad, that he is out of pain soon and that the tumour can be sorted by medication. I will pray for him, and for you too. I can understand why you wanted a low key Thanksgiving.

TimothyBFan
12-01-2008, 06:44 PM
Brooke--good luck with all that is going on with your father.:grouphug:

Peekaboo
12-01-2008, 08:15 PM
Oh Brooke, so sorry to hear about your father. I wish all the best for him and for you. I'll be praying for you and your family.



PB--don't give up hope on that person, maybe they will come around. If there is one thing I've learned, especially the last couple of years, family is everything. After almost a year of not speaking to each other, my husband and his sister are making the effort to put all the ugly things that were said to each other in a heated moment, all because of another member of the family, aside and get their relationship back on track. Maybe it will happen for you also.


Thanks Willie and to everyone else for the support. I hope things will one day work out like with your hubby and sis-in-law, Willie, but right now it's really hard to see that happening. This family member was like a best friend to me and to know that things won't go back to the way they were is so hard for me because i'm such a big family person. My family means the world to me. I know that i'm not dealing with a death in the family but the only way i can express this is that it feels like i've lost a loved one. Being a grown up right now sucks.:sad:

sodascouts
12-02-2008, 01:05 PM
Oh Brooke, I'm so sorry. I had noticed you were missing and wondered if it was just the holidays, or if something else had happened. Now I see that it was indeed the latter. I'll pray for your family to help get you through these hard times.

Brooke
12-02-2008, 04:09 PM
Thanks everyone. It's so wierd how everything is going fine one day and the next, everything is chaos. Not even 2 months ago, Mom and Dad were so happy celebrating their anniversary.

I've sure missed being here and hope to be able to catch up soon. I'll try to pop in whenever I can.

TimothyBFan
12-02-2008, 04:11 PM
Brooke-I must admit--when I read your first post about your father, the first thing I thought about was that beautiful picture you posted awhile back of you with your parents at their anniversary celebration. Hang in there!!!

Littlemelly9
12-02-2008, 06:24 PM
Brook I'm so sorry for you I feel for u girlee

Glennsallnighter
12-02-2008, 06:31 PM
Brooke-I must admit--when I read your first post about your father, the first thing I thought about was that beautiful picture you posted awhile back of you with your parents at their anniversary celebration. Hang in there!!!

Amazing!! So did I! As the others say, hang in there!

glenneaglesfan
12-05-2008, 02:17 PM
Brooke, I'm so sorry to hear about your father's problems and I will be thinking of you, and all of you here who are having problems with family, or have been bereaved. EV, it must be particularly hard for you with your father so far away.

I have been away from the internet for a week. Things came to a head last week when I visited my parents again and found that neither of them had been managing their meds. I decided to stay with them for a few days while I could speed up the powers that be to arrange for care. We finally met someone from a care agency on Wednesday, and she is going to start twice daily visits from next Monday. Mum was quite bolshy, as expected, but the carer will try not to be too intrusive, but just try and make sure they are safe. Dad is terribly short of breath and muddled, and I just want them both to be looked after. We also found that Dad has developed an ulcer on his leg which is going to need dressing.

On top of all this, things are not great between my other half and me. He hates me coming on this board. Tonight is the first time I will see him since a row last week, and I don't know how things are going to pan out. Seeing the Eagles again next year is not on the cards right now, for sure.

TimothyBFan
12-05-2008, 02:38 PM
gef--Good Luck with EVERYTHING on your plate right now. My thoughts are with you.:grouphug:

ticky
12-05-2008, 02:42 PM
Awe Gef , :grouphug: I hope you can find a little *you* time with all that mess happening. My best wishes for your Mom and Dad and, as for Hubs, I really hope maybe he can get ti understand your need to escape here occasionally with all the stress you're dealing with. He sounds a little like MY hubs *G* Best to you! :hug:

Brooke, I have to admit, When I saw the picture of you and your parents at the anniversary, I thought they looked fantastic! I guess you just never know. :grouphug: Again, my best to you! :hug:

sodascouts
12-05-2008, 03:03 PM
GEF, I'm so sorry to hear that your parents still aren't doing well. Hopefully this caretaker will make sure they at least are getting their meds straight and all that. As for your husband - UGH! I swear! I will never understand why some men resent their wives giving the least bit of attention to something that doesn't involve them. What harm does it do for you to come on here? Quite the contrary; it gives you stress relief and a feeling of community. Everyone needs a hobby (perhaps he should get one so he has less time to get on your case).

It's not as if you're sneaking off to have an affair, get stoned, get drunk, or feed a gambling addiction with the household money. He should be grateful his worst complaint is that you are a big fan of a rock group and enjoy spending some time posting about them. Maybe he wouldn't find that so horrific if he were in the shoes of someone with a wife who has REAL vices, someone who didn't take care of the children, didn't keep the house, and didn't even love him! There are many men who face THAT kind of wife every day and I'm sure they'd scoff at your husband making such a big deal about you occasionally visiting a freaking message board.

ticky
12-05-2008, 04:15 PM
Maybe we should start a fan site for the Hubbys!! *G* the Dipsy chicks.. Heart, Dilana (for mike.. heheehe) who else? OH! The Pussycat dolls!! (not that they can sing, but they'd definitely be a hobby for the guys!)

Mrs Henley
12-05-2008, 04:35 PM
Maybe we should start a fan site for the Hubbys!! *G* the Dipsy chicks.. Heart, Dilana (for mike.. heheehe) who else? OH! The Pussycat dolls!! (not that they can sing, but they'd definitely be a hobby for the guys!)

Do agree Ticky, lol.

DonFan
12-05-2008, 06:14 PM
Brooke, I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I pray he will be doing better soon.
GEF, I am thinking of you as you are going through all your family difficulties, too.

Perfect Little Sister
12-09-2008, 05:28 AM
Hey everyone! I've missed y'all over the past few months. I've missed so much...
I hope everyone is doing as well as can be. I am hardly ever online anymore due to the chaos my life has become. The second week of September, hubby was laid-off and he's still unemployed. My brother-in-law was diagnosed last month with lymphoma and given a 60% chance the chemo will work. I work retail so have worked 75 hours in the last 6 days. Calgon take me away! lol I keep telling myself i just have to survive holiday. Once January hits I'll be luck to pull 20 hours a week. I seriously need an Eagles fix. lol

DonFan
12-09-2008, 10:22 AM
Welcome back, PLS! Good to hear from you again!
Sorry to hear about your hubby losing his job (sadly, here is a lot of that going around--I lost mine in October). I wish him luck in his job search, and I hope the chemo is successful on your brother-in-law.

sodascouts
12-09-2008, 12:22 PM
Understandable, PLS. Hopefully things will be looking up soon, especially with D getting a job and your B-I-L.

DonFan
12-10-2008, 07:21 PM
My little band has a gig playing at a Christmas party this Saturday night and at band practice this weekend I found out that the lead singer and bass player, both huge Eagles fans, have added No More Cloudy Days and Heartache Tonight to the set list.

I love band practice! :band:

SweetHolly
12-10-2008, 09:55 PM
I'm going to be getting lap-band surgery in a few months.

Freypower
12-10-2008, 10:55 PM
Hey everyone! I've missed y'all over the past few months. I've missed so much...
I hope everyone is doing as well as can be. I am hardly ever online anymore due to the chaos my life has become. The second week of September, hubby was laid-off and he's still unemployed. My brother-in-law was diagnosed last month with lymphoma and given a 60% chance the chemo will work. I work retail so have worked 75 hours in the last 6 days. Calgon take me away! lol I keep telling myself i just have to survive holiday. Once January hits I'll be luck to pull 20 hours a week. I seriously need an Eagles fix. lol


Hi, PLS. I'm sorry to hear your bad news. Please hang in there.

sodascouts
12-11-2008, 12:36 AM
Good luck with that, Sweet Holly.

ticky
12-11-2008, 02:11 AM
I'm going to be getting lap-band surgery in a few months.

Holly!! Wonderful!! Very good luck. I had a banded distal gastric by-pass about 8 years ago and it saved my life. I lost about 375+ lbs BUT then I had a baby,..completely throws off the whole weight loss thingie hehehehe but she was worth it *G*

You go girl!! best of luck!

Peekaboo
12-11-2008, 06:43 AM
Good luck with that Holly. My mother had that done 5 years ago and it changed her life so much, all for the better. Let us know how it goes.

TimothyBFan
12-11-2008, 08:43 AM
Holly!! Wonderful!! Very good luck. I had a banded distal gastric by-pass about 8 years ago and it saved my life. I lost about 375+ lbs BUT then I had a baby,..completely throws off the whole weight loss thingie hehehehe but she was worth it *G*

You go girl!! best of luck!

Wow Ticky!! Congratulations on that!!

Good Luck Holly--Hope it all works out for you!!

Brooke
12-11-2008, 05:23 PM
Good luck Holly!

And ticky, that is amazing! Congrats!

I'm glad to be able to be here more regularly again. We did find out that my Dad's brain tumor is cancerous. Surgery is not an option, but he is thinking about chemo. I really don't want him to go through that at his age for just a couple months, but I think he is going to try it. He doesn't want to just give up. We finally got him to a nursing home about 15 miles from where we live and he is taking it pretty well, but we have watched him get weaker every day. He doesn't feel like eating either, which contributes to his weakness. It's so hard to see him like this. He was so active and vital just 2 months ago. It seems that one day he is better and then the next day he is worse and I don't see him making it to Christmas. The doctor won't really say how much time he has and he thought he was too weak to take chemo, but was willing to let him try it. I guess we'll see. I guess it can't hurt much since he doesn't feel good anyway.

Gef, I hope your parents are doing better.

PLS, best of luck to you too.

DF, good luck at your Christmas party! It's good to hear good news!

sodascouts
12-11-2008, 05:32 PM
Oh, wow, Brooke, I'm so sorry. I'll pray for your family.

On another note, I had a "mock interview" today, practicing for the real deal (when I get it), and the evaluators said I did really well, that I came across as passionate about what I do, energetic, and overall likeable. It sure gave me a nice boost of confidence to help me when I get "out there."

TimothyBFan
12-11-2008, 06:17 PM
Brooke, I know you are hearing this from everyone, but for what it's worth, I really am thinking of you and what's ahead. The decisions are not easy to make for you and your family. I was in the same boat almost exactly a year ago and I would not wish it upon anyone. Hang in there and I will be saying a little prayer for you tonight!

tbs fanatic
12-11-2008, 06:26 PM
So sorry to hear that Brooke.

ticky
12-11-2008, 07:05 PM
Brooke, Im sending you all the strength I can *G* My best to you and your Mom and Dad.

EasyFeeling
12-12-2008, 04:26 AM
Oh Brooke, sorry to hear that. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts. I haven't been here for a long time and have no idea how's everyone doing and what happenend the last months. :-(

TimothyBFan
12-12-2008, 09:23 AM
On another note, I had a "mock interview" today, practicing for the real deal (when I get it), and the evaluators said I did really well, that I came across as passionate about what I do, energetic, and overall likeable. It sure gave me a nice boost of confidence to help me when I get "out there."

:applause::applause::applause: :thumbsup: Good job--now for those letters and phone calls to start pouring in!!

Brooke
12-12-2008, 10:57 AM
Way to go Soda! Of course, we already knew you were passionate, energetic and overall likeable! :wink:

I hope something comes up for you soon.

:fingers crossed:

tengo ritmo
12-12-2008, 03:18 PM
Hello everyone! I don't know how long it has been since I've been on here--at least a couple of years. Hopefully some of you remember me! I don't know what compelled me to log on today, maybe because I'm finally home and have a moment of downtime, but I'm really glad I did--it evoked many fond memories. :) Hope you all are doing well and are looking forward to the holiday season!
As for me, I'm in college now--I go to the University of California, Los Angeles, and I am having a fantastic time. I love my major, I love the people, and I love the things I can do and get involved in, and all the culture right at my fingertips. I just finished my first quarter, took my finals, and I'm now back home for three weeks. Not sure what to do with myself!
I also was walking around Westwood (the area around UCLA) during the first month of school and ran into Glendon avenue, which rang a bell. :) I guess the Eagles Touring Company is all of a fifteen minute walk away from my dorm. Now to get them to play at Royce Hall like their old compaņero Jackson Browne...!
It's been a long time since I checked up on the Eagles, even though I do check for tour dates every now and then, just to make sure I don't miss anything. And, almost needless to say, my roommates are somewhat familiar with their music by now. Old obsessions die hard :wink:
I have truly missed the friends I made here, and I'm probably going to read a good chunk of this thread to catch up! Take care, everyone!
Paz y amor,
Irene

sodascouts
12-12-2008, 03:29 PM
Wow - this is so bizarre - I was actually thinking of you today and wondering how you were, Irene!

Glad you reported back to us and that things are going so well. The Eagles haven't gotten anything lined up for California yet, but I'm sure it's just a matter of time.

eaglesvet
12-13-2008, 12:51 AM
jBrooke, I too will keep your family in my prayers.

Soda, what do you teach at Purdue, and are you looking for a similar position at another university; or are you looking to get out of academia?

Stars
12-13-2008, 10:15 AM
Brooke,
Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you too. I am so sorry your family is going through such a hard time.

I just found out that my hours have been cut at my job. I was only part time, and now I'm REALLY part time. I feel blessed though, and am grateful I even have a job, with the way the economy is right now.

glenneaglesfan
12-14-2008, 06:25 PM
So much catching up to do. PLS, it's good to hear from you again, even though the news isn't good. I'm sorry to hear that your hubby has been made unemployed and I hope he can find something soon. I'm also thinking about your b-i-l and his illness.

Brooke, I'm so sad to hear about your father, and I sincerely hope that if he has to undergo chemo it will be tolerable and that it can boost his quality of life. I'll be thinking of you.

EF and Tengo, nice to hear from you again!

Soda, good news about your mock interview, and when you find what you want, you go for it, girl!

It's nearly two weeks since I last had time to spend here. I was on a real downer last time, but hubby and I are making compromises to keep our relationship going and he has been more supportive. One condition he made was that I should get a medical check, and last week I went to my own doctor and found that my blood pressure was right up. I have to have some tests next week and she has signed me off from work. In the meantime, my father had become so frail that he was admitted to hospital. The last few days, my sister and I have shared caring for Mum and hospital visits to Dad. He is very confused, but the plan is to transfer him to the local hospital where a suitable package of care can be arranged to get him home.

I accompanied Dad on the ambulance when he was being taken to hospital, and you'll never guess what came on the radio - believe it or not -Take It Easy!

sodascouts
12-14-2008, 11:41 PM
I'm glad things are improving with your hubby, but sorry to hear about your father. It sounds like you are doing the best you can. Take care of yourself, too, now! Listen to some Eagles and, as the song said when you were in that ambulance... try to Take It Easy.

ticky
12-15-2008, 02:44 AM
Gef ~ Im sorry to hear about your Dad and I know it's got to be hard on your Mom. I hope you can get some time for yourself. It's great that you and the Hubs are working through things. I know stress can wear on a relationship as much as it can on your personal health! Maybe the song in the ambulance was a sign? *G* Take it Easy and show yourself a little love too.

As for us, we're snowed in!! When I was a kid, we'd get snow storms like this and spend days skiing down the road and building snowmen. One brave soul in the neighborhood would hook up some chains and head to the store after a few days for cocoa and marshmallows. I just remember these times as being very special and involving the entire neighborhood. We'd play, land in one house for cocoa and ghost stories then play some more and land in the next for cocoa and dancing to records in the basement, and so on it went.
Today, this weather is very unusual. We haven't had a snow or cold weather that has lasted like this for at least a dozen years! There's nearly a foot of snow outside our back door (I know for some of ya'll, that's nothing, for us, thats snowed in!) School are all closed tomorrow and even public transportation has come to a halt. It's a good thing I stocked up! As long as I have coffee beans, Im good. (I do miss my oreos tho..*G*)
I'll probably be here a lot as long as we have our electricity and internet!
They say the snow will keep up for a few more days. I wonder if I still have my old skis? *G*

TimothyBFan
12-15-2008, 10:36 AM
Ticky--do me a favor and keep that snow out there. We don't want anymore of it!!!! We cried uncle a couple weeks ago. Over the weekend it was rain and for the most part the snow has melted but lake effect snow is suppose to start up again this evening so I'm sure we will be buried real soon once again. It dropped 30 degrees in 4 hours overnight last night!!

SweetHolly
12-15-2008, 09:59 PM
Thanks everyone. It won't be for a couple of months but I really need it and to get back on track with life.

I will keep everyone who's going through a hard time in my thoughts and prayers.

Glennsallnighter
12-16-2008, 06:59 PM
I have missed a lot here over the last week or so what with my new job, hubby's time off and us having been away last weekend. I hope I don't leave anyone out here.

GEF! I'm sorry to hear that you have had such a stressful time. Rest assured that even if you don't make it onto the board as often as you were used to we are all thinking of you and rooting for you. I hope things between your hubby and yourself continue to improve. My solution to the 'Hubby' situation is that he simply doesn't know!! Although I've sailed close to the wind on several occasions.

PLS Welcome back. I HAD indeed missed you and am sorry to hear that things have not been going as well for you. I hope 2009 will bring an improvement.

Brooke that is terrible news about your father as well. I will keep him and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Soda, thats great to hear that your assessment of your mock interview went so well. I hope it yeilds the fruit you would like soon.

To those of you who have lost jobs or have had hours cut, I hope they will be restored soon.

Welcome back TR! I'm glad things are going well for you at the moment.

DF I hope the party went well.

Ticky and co, please send the snow over here. Its a long time since we've had any and I could sure use some!!

We were in Budapest in Hungary for an extended weekend last weekend, and I would say it is well worth a visit. It is very scenic and there is plenty to do although the weather was quite dull. The people were also very friendly and there were plenty of opportunities to taste the local fare. The highlight was on Saturday night when we went Ice skating on a beautiful frozen outdoor square. Laura and Chris got the hang of it immediately. There was Christmas music playing and mulled wine being served on the sidelines. It just felt sooooo Christmassy!! Pictures to follow very soon.

Brooke
12-17-2008, 11:31 AM
Ga, that sounds like a lovely weekend and I'm sure it brought quite a holiday mood. :smile:

ticky
12-17-2008, 09:34 PM
GAN ~ you got it.. all the snow you want.. it's still coming down!! well it actually stopped, started raining and now its starting to freeze. WHAT FUN!!

I'm a little freaked out right now. Jenni just got accepted to St. John's University in New York. She also got offered a $12k annual scholarship. She says she doesn't want to go there, it's too far away (Thats my baby!!) but I don't see how she can turn it down!! I'm extremely proud, but I'm sad too. 3000 miles away is just too far.

eaglesvet
12-17-2008, 09:42 PM
Out East is not sooooo bad, although I do agree it is a bit far from the only rainforest in the northern hemisphere. Does she have any other colleges yet to hear from? You never know what may be offered her to attend those.

ticky
12-17-2008, 09:47 PM
She's applied to Willamette (Salem- an hour away) and Concordia (the other side of the river from here.. about 20 minutes drive) I'm allll for those!! but we haven't heard anything from them yet, and that 12K a year makes college ALMOST affordable!

I used to live in NY and actually, if I could afford to travel back and forth myself, I'd tell her to go for it!! Everyone should spend some time on the East Coast as well as the West. I just need my own personal Lear Jet *G*

eaglesvet
12-18-2008, 12:28 AM
Wow, 2 that are right in your backyard, and then the one in NY? I guess it's either all or nothing with her, huh? I agree it's hard to look down on 12K, but do you have to make an early decision, or can you wait till you hear from the other 2?

ticky
12-18-2008, 12:36 AM
We're waiting to hear from a few others. She would really love to go to Berkley, but no Cali schools are taking out of state students unless they're really exemplary students (Jenni's good, but not outstanding) She could always transfer later if she wanted to, but she has a legacy at Willamette and Concordia is thrilled with the prospect of having her. (Both have been courting her for some time) but we do have some time. We'll wait it out and see if someone else can offer us a similar deal. The New York school just kind of threw Mommy for a loop *G* where ever she goes, she wants to live on campus. Thats fine with me, as long as she can come home on weekends etc *G*

Glennsallnighter
12-18-2008, 07:45 AM
Congratulations to Jenni on winning that scholarship Ticky! You must be so proud of her. Gosh! College in the States is so different to here! I hope Jenni will be happy whatever decision she makes.:)

MikeA
12-18-2008, 08:44 AM
Ticky, do you guys have any "family" still living in NY? It seems such an opportunity for her. I don't know how I'd deal with it should either of my kids choose to move away like I did when I was college age.

TimothyBFan
12-18-2008, 09:06 AM
Wow Ticky --that is wonderful!!! But so far away would be so hard as a mother.

What's funny is I was actually coming on here to give our good news also--Dillon got his acceptance letter yesterday from Indiana University! That's where he has wanted to go since his Sophomore year when he went down there for a Journalism camp. It's only 3 1/2 hours away so that's doable for Mom! :) Unfortunately, there has been no scholarship money offered yet but we will be looking long and hard for some. He had also got accepted to a small private college a little closer and would get a $9,000.00 a year scholarship for the full 4 years which sounded fabulous till we found out that is was around $35,000.00 a year! :woah: Big deal! Glad he got accepted to the one he really wanted so now we won't have to worry about that.

This is a scary time! We want our kids to move on with life but hate to see them "fly the coop". I guess we all did it and survived- right?

ticky
12-18-2008, 11:54 AM
Pretty much Willie *G* Now I know how My parents felt when I hopped on that plane to NY. I hope Dillon gets a good scholarship. Have you checked out financial aide? St. John's tuition was $28,100 a year!! the scholarship would have brought that down plus about 10K from FAFSCA (is that the right initials?) so that left about 6K a year to deal with NOT including room and Board.. YIKES!!!! I think the 6K would be managable.. but the R&B yeesh


Mike, I wish I had family back there. There's a family friend who's quite wealthy who lives wayyyyy up state but he's also completely nuts (wait.. I think when you're rich its excentric? *G*) anyway, I wouldnt send her there to live with him and his pet cows (Yeesh) It is a terrific deal, but we're going to wait and see what Willamette and Concordia offer

Brooke
12-18-2008, 12:54 PM
Congrats to both your kids, ticky and TBF! Sounds like big changes are coming for you guys! Good luck with all those decisions.

I've been through it and yes, you will survive! :lol:

TimothyBFan
12-18-2008, 01:55 PM
I'm in shock a little--my daughter just called me from school and apparently one of the kids in Dillon's class committed suicide last night. This kid had just been accepted to Purdue University for next year and wanted to major in Aviation Technology and was a licensed large boat operator and certified scuba diver. It seemed he had a lot going for him. What makes an 18 year old kid with so much going for him do something like that? I don't know his family but word is they are pretty tight. I haven't heard from Dillon but will talk to him when he comes home from school. What do you really say to your kids when something like that happens? This is the 4th kid in his class that they have lost since the beginning of high school and the 2nd suicide in 2 years. Really scary--you just never really know what is going thru a kids mind, no matter how much you think you know about your kids. This poor family-and right around the holidays!

Brooke
12-18-2008, 02:09 PM
Oh my, Willie. That is terrible news. I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

glenneaglesfan
12-18-2008, 02:14 PM
TBF, that is so desperately sad, and who knows what goes through these kids' minds when they are low. My younger son suffered a similar shock last year, when a kid he knew walked home from school and hung himself. Everyone who knew him wondered what they could have done to prevent it, but in the end these ghastly events are unpredictable.

I've had a morning of 'retail therapy' with a friend, and have found some outfits for the work events coming up. Hubby approves! My Dad is still in hospital, but has been transferred to a cottage hospital much nearer home today, which will make life easier.

I miss coming here so much!

tbs fanatic
12-18-2008, 05:05 PM
Oh my gosh TBF that is terribly sad news. My younger son's best friend has just been hospitalized for depression. The tipping point came when the Mom saw cut marks on his wrist - he's only 14!!! The teenage years are a scary time for parents and kids.

chaleymom
12-20-2008, 01:11 AM
Hi guys - I've been off for a few days - don't seem to ever have any "me" time lately. Between taking care of things for my mom (at her assisted living facility), checking on dad (still at home), having my daughter home from college (Yay!!!), working full time, and trying to get ready for Christmas - the day is over before I know it!!

I'm truly sorry for all the challenges, heartache, and sadness some of you here are feeling. I will keep you all in my prayers.

I always seem to have a weekly pity party for myself - and then I check out this site and realize things really aren't nearly as bad as they could be. Some of you truly have some hardships and I empathize with you. Isn't it nice to have a place like this to come to just to vent and share feelings?

Although every year I say "Christmas is going to be different this year - it's going to be more relaxing" - I still knock myself out shopping, wrapping, decorating, baking and entertaining. I'm not finished shopping yet but plan to be very productive tomorrow! My brother is coming up from Florida on Monday for 7 days, then my husband and I are flying to Miami Florida for a really quick trip on New Years Eve day. We are going to the Orange Bowl where the University of Cincinnati Bearcats will play Virginia Tech on January 1. Since my daughter is now a freshman Bearcat we are so excited that 'her' team made it to a bowl game. (but SHE'S not going! Where's that school spirit!!!??) We're only staying two days, returning on Jan. 2. I have huge guilt feelings about leaving (as usual) because I hate leaving mom - she always worries about me when she doesn't see me on almost a daily basis. My brother has assured me he'll take care of things while I'm gone and I'm not telling mom I'm leaving town. When we return, my long lost, recently found son and his wife and daughter will come for a visit on January 4. I can't wait to see them again!

If I happen to get distracted and become absent again for awhile, I hope you all have a very Merry, Blessed Christmas and that all your families stay safe and healthy.

glenneaglesfan
12-22-2008, 05:37 PM
You sound more organised than me, Chaleymom, and I send you my best wishes for meeting your newly found son and his family, and looking after your own family.

My dad looked a bit brighter in the local hospital today, but he definitely will not be home from Christmas. My sister will be down for the holiday and we'll meet up for the day after Christmas.

I may not get a chance to look in again, so I wish you all a very Happy Christmas and keep up the Eagles love!

Glennsallnighter
12-22-2008, 07:26 PM
It good to hear that your dad is in better spirits GEF! I hope he keeps it up over the festive season and that things go as well as they can for all of you. CM you are certainly very well organised. I finished work today, and though a late night shop I had finished the present giving, but I've just realised another gift which I must buy. Tomorrow I am hoping to do the fresh food shopping and if I'm lucky will avoid the shops on Christmas eve. That will be a cooking day, and we also bring the kids to see the deer in local park on Christmas Eve. I'm hoping I'll get back on again before Christmas, but if I don't (or if you guys don't!!) I hope everyone has a very happy and peaceful Christmas. I hope also that the warmth of the season will help sustain those of us who are going through difficult times at the moment and give them renewed strength.

sodascouts
12-22-2008, 09:53 PM
Merry Christmas to you, too. Here's hoping that things look brighter in 2009.

Brooke
12-23-2008, 12:49 PM
I hope all goes well with your Dad, gef. And I'm glad things are going better for you and your husband.

We are bringing my Dad home from the nursing for a few hours Christmas Eve. My Mom has finally accepted the fact that he cannot come home to stay. She just can't handle him by herself. He's a tall, big boned person and she is little bitty. We would help her as much as possible, but we can't be there all the time as we also have jobs and lives of our own. He has accepted it pretty well, too.

Hubby is driving to St. Louis today to pick up the daughter and son and his girlfriend are driving up from Springfield tonight after work. Hopefully, the weather will cooperate and all will arrive safely. We have a winter weather advisory going on right now. :rolleyes:

So, I may not make it back here before Christmas and
wish you all http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y63/desperado74/hh2.png

Glennsallnighter
12-23-2008, 01:03 PM
The same to you Brooke! I hope your dad manages to make it home and enjoys the time that he does have there. I'm sure to be able go home will make it a special Christmas for him.

Peekaboo
12-24-2008, 08:56 PM
I'm trying to stay as positive as possible this holiday but sometimes things happen that are just completely out of my control. Firstly I have to work tonight (Christmas Eve) and on Christmas so this is going to be the first time ever for me to be without any of my family for Christmas. I got to go back home yesterday and the day before so i did my christmas with my family then. One of my good friends that I work with invited me for Christmas dinner with her family so I'll be spending the afternoon with them tomorrow before i have to get ready for work tomorrow night. There was also a death in my family on monday morning so i'll be attending the funeral on saturday. She was actually my cousin's grandmother but my cousin and I are very close, like sisters, so i've known her grandmother all my life and although she wasn't related to me, she was like a grandmother to me. She was diagnosed with stomach cancer at the beginning of November and was givin about 3 months to live. She only lived for a month and a half after her diagnosis but the time spent with her will always be treasured. She will be greatly missed.

EagleLady
12-27-2008, 03:13 PM
My Dumb Cat chewed through the wire of my new headphones :enraged:

Brooke
12-27-2008, 05:15 PM
Pb, I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin's grandmother. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

EL, you must train your cat better! :lol:

EagleLady
12-27-2008, 05:18 PM
:lol: He likes to get up here on the workdesk and sit by me, watching me I suppose. Now he's asleep on my mom's bed. He's a big ole teddy bear.

sodascouts
12-28-2008, 04:57 PM
Peekaboo, I'm so sorry to hear about the death in your family, especially since you were so close to her. May she rest in peace.

Glennsallnighter
12-28-2008, 07:17 PM
Yes, I too am sorry for your bad news PaB and will keep your family in my prayers.

TimothyBFan
12-29-2008, 10:11 AM
PB--My thoughts are with you and your family!

Peekaboo
12-31-2008, 08:07 PM
Thank you everybody. The support from everyone on here is amazing.

Troubadour
01-01-2009, 12:34 PM
Can I add my condolences too, Jess... I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I'll keep you in my thoughts, and I'm here if you ever want to chat :hug:

I've had a bit of a strange couple of days. One of the service users went for me at work on Tuesday, so I've got some almighty bruises on my upper arms. Although it's part of the job, it left me feeling a bit shaken and generally emotional and drained. Everyone's a bit unsettled at work at the moment because of the Christmas comedown, so it's not quite as enjoyable right now as it has been. I was working a late last night and an early today, so I couldn't see the New Year in in style, but I have the afternoon off so I'm going to do nothing but chill out with a drink and watch some DVDs. I need a bit of time to relax!

We got some bad news earlier about my Grandad. He went for a blood test and his cancer count has gone up quite dramatically. It's definitely in the lymphatic system, which we'd hoped it wasn't. He's been given one final tablet to try - after which, it's chemotherapy. He has been adamant so far that he doesn't want chemotherapy, because he lost his brother a few months ago after a rough course of chemo and he saw how he deteriorated... I'm trying not to think too much about it this afternoon because there's nothing I can do, but it's worrying. The thought of losing him is awful. I have no idea what my Grandma would do. They have been like second parents to me, especially since my Dad died. It's just a case of staying positive, I guess, and spending as much time with them as possible, but it's going to be hard. My Grandad and I have always been extremely close.

Anyway... to completely change the mood and to end on a light note (I'm determined that the New Year is not going to be doom and gloom!) ... 2009 is the year I will see Don and the guys for the first time! I feel very, very lucky.

ticky
01-01-2009, 12:51 PM
Jess, belated condolences over your cousin's Grandmother. I know what it's like being very close to extended family like that. Every loss is felt. :hug:


Lou, Rough times like you've experienced at your work are part of the job, true, but can be confidence shaking and frightening. I hope your bruises heal quickly and try not to let it shake you too much. You're stronger then you know *G* As for your Grandfather, :hug: he's stronger then you know too *G* My love and prayers are with you both.

(and try hard not to think about the whole gardening thing we talked about *G*)

Brooke
01-01-2009, 09:04 PM
Troub, I'm so sorry about your Grandad. I'm wishing you and your family all the strength you need to get through.

We brought my Dad home from the nursing home yesterday. Hospice will be in and out helping as much as we need them to. He and Mom are just glad to be home and in familiar surroundings. His ribs are healing and he's not in so much pain which is a blessing.

It was a bittersweet day today on my husband's side. All the siblings and their spouses met at his mother's home today and went through everything, dividing it all up and clearing out the house. It was sad at times, but good to get it all wrapped up so we can move on.

DonFan
01-02-2009, 12:34 AM
Jess, belated condolences from me, too.

Troub, I'm sorry to hear your Granddad's cancer count is up. Hopefully the next count will be better.

Brooke, you are having to deal with so much in your family right now. It is so emotionally draining to have to divide up possessions like that, but you are right, you will all feel better once it is finished. I hope your father isn't in much pain now. I know the hospice workers will be a big help.

I hope that 2009 will be a year filled with good health and prosperity for everyone.

Mrs Frey
01-02-2009, 05:15 AM
I'm trying to stay as positive as possible this holiday but sometimes things happen that are just completely out of my control. Firstly I have to work tonight (Christmas Eve) and on Christmas so this is going to be the first time ever for me to be without any of my family for Christmas. I got to go back home yesterday and the day before so i did my christmas with my family then. One of my good friends that I work with invited me for Christmas dinner with her family so I'll be spending the afternoon with them tomorrow before i have to get ready for work tomorrow night. There was also a death in my family on monday morning so i'll be attending the funeral on saturday. She was actually my cousin's grandmother but my cousin and I are very close, like sisters, so i've known her grandmother all my life and although she wasn't related to me, she was like a grandmother to me. She was diagnosed with stomach cancer at the beginning of November and was givin about 3 months to live. She only lived for a month and a half after her diagnosis but the time spent with her will always be treasured. She will be greatly missed.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Peekaboo, and that of your cousin. How especially sad to lose her this time of the year.

Mrs Frey
01-02-2009, 05:41 AM
I've had a bit of a strange couple of days. One of the service users went for me at work on Tuesday, so I've got some almighty bruises on my upper arms. Although it's part of the job, it left me feeling a bit shaken and generally emotional and drained. Everyone's a bit unsettled at work at the moment because of the Christmas comedown, so it's not quite as enjoyable right now as it has been. I was working a late last night and an early today, so I couldn't see the New Year in in style, but I have the afternoon off so I'm going to do nothing but chill out with a drink and watch some DVDs. I need a bit of time to relax!

We got some bad news earlier about my Grandad. He went for a blood test and his cancer count has gone up quite dramatically. It's definitely in the lymphatic system, which we'd hoped it wasn't. He's been given one final tablet to try - after which, it's chemotherapy. He has been adamant so far that he doesn't want chemotherapy, because he lost his brother a few months ago after a rough course of chemo and he saw how he deteriorated... I'm trying not to think too much about it this afternoon because there's nothing I can do, but it's worrying. The thought of losing him is awful. I have no idea what my Grandma would do. They have been like second parents to me, especially since my Dad died. It's just a case of staying positive, I guess, and spending as much time with them as possible, but it's going to be hard. My Grandad and I have always been extremely close.



Oh Troubadour, I'm so sorry about your grandfather, especially after you've already lost your father. I really hope that his medication will help. I lost my mother to lymphoma... I hope that they've caught your grandfather's cancer early enough.

I know what you mean about staying positive. People tell you that, but it's easier said than done. Sometimes life just isn't easy, and one feels as if one struggles through every minute of every day, trying to find answers to one's problems. Sometimes one just gets tired of being strong, and needs someone to comfort one and let down the guard.

I wish your grandfather, you and your family every strength through this challenging time.

Mrs Frey
01-02-2009, 05:46 AM
We brought my Dad home from the nursing home yesterday. Hospice will be in and out helping as much as we need them to. He and Mom are just glad to be home and in familiar surroundings. His ribs are healing and he's not in so much pain which is a blessing.

It was a bittersweet day today on my husband's side. All the siblings and their spouses met at his mother's home today and went through everything, dividing it all up and clearing out the house. It was sad at times, but good to get it all wrapped up so we can move on.

Oh Brooke, as DF says you are having to deal with a lot right now. I wish you, your husband and parents all the strength you need to get through this difficult time. My thoughts are with you.

Mrs Frey
01-02-2009, 05:49 AM
My dad looked a bit brighter in the local hospital today, but he definitely will not be home from Christmas. My sister will be down for the holiday and we'll meet up for the day after Christmas.

I may not get a chance to look in again, so I wish you all a very Happy Christmas and keep up the Eagles love!

GEF, although I haven't been on The Border for such a while, I'm aware of your troubles, and I want to wish you and your parents every strength to get through these tough times. I'm sorry that your father had to spend Christmas in hospital, but glad that he is looking better. You are in my thoughts.

TimothyBFan
01-02-2009, 05:55 PM
From me to all of you that are going thru rough times right now :grouphug:.

chaleymom
01-02-2009, 07:12 PM
Hi all and Happy New Year! Just reading through and getting up-to-speed with everyone in the last few days. Peekaboo, Brooke, GEF and anyone else I forgot - I hope you all will find some peaceful time for yourselves to forget about the stress - if even for just a little while. I know from experience that it's so important to take care of OURSELVES when we are caring for and about others....

I was finally convinced to go ahead and take a mini trip with my husband for 3 days. New Years Eve day we flew to Miami Florida for a couple of days of rest, relaxation, sunshine, warm weather and the Orange Bowl game. Too bad the Bearcats lost - but we still really enjoyed ourselves. We just returned this afternoon. My brother was home to care for mom when she called and all-in-all - things were fine. The world did NOT fall apart without me here!!! LOL I do feel more refreshed and more able to deal with the day-to-day stresses now that I had a couple of days away.

Mom continues to be very confused lately and I know the Altzheimers is starting to progress. Most nights she doesn't know where she is (Assisted Living) and she seems to be digressing..... seems to think she's supposed to be babysitting someone every night. I believe she's thinking of when she used to watch my children after school. This is such a scary disease. I'm thankful that physically she's doing OK - except she's fallen a few times in the last couple of months due to balance I believe - and she bruises so terribly because of the blood thinner she's on for her past heart problems.

Tomorrow will be a good day because my son, daughter in law and granddaughter are coming to visit. Yay! then it's back to work again after 11 days off! ugh!!!

God Bless you all....

Glennsallnighter
01-02-2009, 07:36 PM
Gosh, Troub, I hope you are both physically and mentally ok after that attack. :hug: I hope too that this tablet works for your grandad and that he will not have to undergo the rigours of Chemotherapy.

Brooke, I hope your dad remains comfortable at home with your mom. I'll keep them both in my thoughs and prayers as well as yourl mom CM.

MF, I know you have been very busy. Welcome back, even if you are just on a flying visit.

We've had a quiet enough Christmas as Hubby has been working a fair bit over the last 2 weeks. So its been lots of dvd's and choccies! However on Monday night we went to see an 80's cover band called 'Spring Break'. The SECOND song they covered was THE HEAT IS ON!!!!!! :yay: :yay: :yay: Needless to say I'll be back to see them again!! The next time I'll wear my 'THIO' T-shirt with the orange flames on the back.:)

Today we went out to LOOK :roll: at Holy Communion dresses for Laura as she will be making hers in May. Sounds like a long time away, but if the dresses aren't organised soon, there can be very few left. They fly out andLaura is tall. Anyway, after trying on about 8 in the first shop :roll: we visited, she picked one she liked so we went ahead and bought it, and all the accessories as well. So its all done! :thumbsup:

EagleLady
01-02-2009, 10:16 PM
My dad has come down with a really bad case of the flu, the stuff is going around. I hope I do not get it next.

EagleLady
01-04-2009, 02:00 PM
Once again I am out of a pair of headphones because the sound in the extra pair I was using now only comes out one ear :brickwall:

glenneaglesfan
01-05-2009, 06:54 PM
Hi everybody. I'm back for a little catching up.

EL, I need some new headphones too - mine are only working on one ear, but I can't blame the cat!

MF, it's so nice to see you posting again. I know how difficult it is for you to get here, but we are always thinking about you and really welcome your posts.

CM, glad to know you had a bit of quality time with your hubby, and that your brother coped. It's a times like these when families can really pull through.

PB, so sorry to hear about your bereavement. Some how it's always worse around Christmas.

Troub, you are a very courageous person to take on such difficult clients. I hope things are a bit calmer now, and I'm also thinking about your grandfather and hoping the treatment works.

Brooke, I'm thinking of you and your father. Your troubles are so like mine. It's good to hear you managed to get your father home for a while over Christmas. It turns out that my father has also had a stroke, which showed up on the ct scan and accounts for the rapid deterioration in his memory problems. He is back in the acute hospital at the moment. It's a very fine line in treating his heart failure and low blood pressure, but he is comfortable. Mum is beginning to get used to being alone, and my sister and I are getting used to lonely phone calls. We have completed the sale on his car today - a tough decision but the right thing to do.

GA, I hope the first communion will go well. Laura will look like an angel.

EagleLady
01-05-2009, 07:02 PM
Hi GEF. This will be the fourth pair I've went through. It's frustrating.

EagleLady
01-05-2009, 07:33 PM
Well My 17 Year old Cousin was caught sneaking out of the house at 1 am and meeting with a 20 year old Felon :headshake:

sodascouts
01-06-2009, 04:43 AM
It turns out that my father has also had a stroke, which showed up on the ct scan and accounts for the rapid deterioration in his memory problems. He is back in the acute hospital at the moment. It's a very fine line in treating his heart failure and low blood pressure, but he is comfortable. Mum is beginning to get used to being alone, and my sister and I are getting used to lonely phone calls. We have completed the sale on his car today - a tough decision but the right thing to do.

Thanks for checking in, GEF - I've been thinking about you. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, but at least you've made him comfortable. Your family is in my prayers.

Glennsallnighter
01-06-2009, 05:30 PM
Mine too GEF! I hope things turn out ok for him. If you ever want a rant text me!

Brooke
01-06-2009, 05:33 PM
I'm glad to hear from you, too, gef. Yes, our problems are very similar. I know it's a lot to deal with besides having your own family and job. I'll keep your parents and family in my thoughts and prayers, too.

El, take care of that cousin. Sounds like she could be heading for trouble.

EagleLady
01-06-2009, 05:39 PM
I'm afraid she'll end up pregnant if she keeps this up

Mrs Frey
01-07-2009, 04:22 AM
MF, it's so nice to see you posting again. I know how difficult it is for you to get here, but we are always thinking about you and really welcome your posts.


Thanks, GEF - it's nice to see you posting too, considering how tough life is for you right now. The only reason I'm posting now is because our system is down at work, and I can't work. :roll: Any excuse to get a little time with my Border friends... and Glenn :heart:, of course. He's still plastered all over my work station. Sigh... :wink:

EagleLady
01-07-2009, 10:51 AM
I do not blame you Mrs F, I have Eagles plastered all over my bedroom walls :inlove:

Glennsallnighter
01-07-2009, 07:17 PM
Well, its an ill wind MF! Its great to see you posting again. I know things have been very hectic at work but that you havent forgotten us! :hug:

Mrs Frey
01-08-2009, 06:30 AM
I do not blame you Mrs F, I have Eagles plastered all over my bedroom walls :inlove:

Good for you, EagleLady - I don't blame you either! I had the Eagles, and mostly Glenn :heart:, all over my bedroom walls too (along with Elvis :heart: and The Beatles :heart:), but since I moved, I haven't got round to decorating my bedroom again. I'll get round to it... :wink:

Mrs Frey
01-08-2009, 06:33 AM
Well, its an ill wind MF! Its great to see you posting again. I know things have been very hectic at work but that you havent forgotten us! :hug:

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

You're such an angel, GA.

Well, it's a special day for me as an Elvis :heart: fan today. It's his 74th birthday, and I'm attending a tribute to him tonight, being held at a restaurant. I'm meeting up with other Elvis Presley Fan Club Of Africa members too, so it should be fun. I'm looking forward to it.

tbs fanatic
01-08-2009, 11:28 AM
Well My 17 Year old Cousin was caught sneaking out of the house at 1 am and meeting with a 20 year old Felon :headshake:

What is it with l7 year olds? My l7 year old son is a total handful and his l7 year old friends don't seem much better :headscratch: To say I was tired of all their drama would be putting it mildly :lightsaber:

EagleLady
01-08-2009, 11:58 AM
What is it with l7 year olds? My l7 year old son is a total handful and his l7 year old friends don't seem much better :headscratch: To say I was tired of all their drama would be putting it mildly :lightsaber:


Must be something in the water. Either that or Teenage rebellion. Thank god I was always level headed.

Brooke
01-08-2009, 03:38 PM
What is it with l7 year olds? My l7 year old son is a total handful and his l7 year old friends don't seem much better :headscratch: To say I was tired of all their drama would be putting it mildly :lightsaber:

You could try Teenage Jail!

Sorry, couldn't resist! :lol:

TimothyBFan
01-08-2009, 03:43 PM
Brooke -I almost did that but then thought to myself "I'm not gonna go there!" Funny!!!

Last year, about 3 months after my son turned 17, he went to Bloomington Indiana down to IU with some friends and the last thing I said to him before he left was "don't make me come down there to bail you out of jail". Guess what!! At 2:30 in the morning the phone rang, my husband and I both sat straight up in bed and said "Oh sh*t!" We knew it. I answered and it was the Bloomington police dept telling me they had arrested him for curfew violation. The other kids he was with were all over 18 and drinking so they got citations and released and the kid driving was 23 and was the only one old enough to drink but was the disignated driver-Duh!!! We had to make the 3 1/2 hour drive to bail him out because he was still a minor. They slapped the cuffs on him and put him in the back of the squad car and we haven't had a bit of problems with him since! I guess you can call it scared straight! Funny thing is, that is where he will be heading next fall for college. They took him anyways! :)

chaleymom
01-10-2009, 12:40 AM
Hey again! In response to the challenges of teenagers.... I guess I have to say I've been really lucky - with my daughter anyway.... she was home for 3 weeks over Christmas break and I've already noticed a big change in her. Gone is most of the drama that previously existed!! :partytime: I think she's already started to mature a bit more after being gone only one quarter to school. She was very helpful to me while she was home - both physically (chores) and emotionally (dealing with my mom). It was hard to see her leave again (altho she's only 45 minutes away!) She took her car back with her this time so now there's a certain amount of 'worry' on my part - not knowing where she's driving to on the weekends.... guess I have to do what I always do - and put her in God's hands - right?

eaglesvet
01-10-2009, 02:56 AM
Brooke -I almost did that but then thought to myself "I'm not gonna go there!" Funny!!!

Last year, about 3 months after my son turned 17, he went to Bloomington Indiana down to IU with some friends and the last thing I said to him before he left was "don't make me come down there to bail you out of jail". Guess what!! At 2:30 in the morning the phone rang, my husband and I both sat straight up in bed and said "Oh sh*t!" We knew it. I answered and it was the Bloomington police dept telling me they had arrested him for curfew violation. The other kids he was with were all over 18 and drinking so they got citations and released and the kid driving was 23 and was the only one old enough to drink but was the disignated driver-Duh!!! We had to make the 3 1/2 hour drive to bail him out because he was still a minor. They slapped the cuffs on him and put him in the back of the squad car and we haven't had a bit of problems with him since! I guess you can call it scared straight! Funny thing is, that is where he will be heading next fall for college. They took him anyways! :)
That is a great story...think it will work with an-almost-13-yr-old?? Have a lot to look forward to, huh?

DonFan
01-10-2009, 03:24 PM
Chaleymom, I know how you feel--I saw the same change in my oldest daughter after she went to college. She just left for school after being here for three weeks too, and I know I will miss her all over again.

Wille, your story sounds so much like what happened with my youngest daughter Christina (age 16) and her crowd over New Year's. Her best friend's new boyfriend talked her into going to a keg party--at an 18-year-old's house whose parents weren't even there--they were in New Orleans for the Sugar Bowl! Since it was so close to curfew time and she also didn't want to be a third wheel, Christina wisely decided to come on home, and a little while later the party was busted and all the kids were taken to the police station and booked with a misdemeanor charge of underage drinking. It scared them all to death, and definitely taught them all a lesson.

This is the worst first week of January that I can ever remember. Publications are going out of business left & right around here, so I had already lost all my writing jobs, but since New Years’ I have lost one friend to pancreatic cancer; my college friend Kay’s husband had a seizure in their front driveway & hit his head when he fell resulting a severe hematoma--a closed head injury with bleeding into his brain—with massive memory loss & is hospitalized indefinitely; my oldest daughter Rachel’s roommate got pregnant and is going to drop out of college to have the baby, losing her scholarship; then yesterday my husband's long-time friend and client suffered a massive heart attack and died getting in his car to go to work that day—his wife found him slumped over his steering wheel three hours later.

I think a black cloud is hovering over us and everyone we know….
Needless to say, I am reeeeeeeally looking forward to my Eagles concert on January 24. I need it BADLY!!!

EagleLady
01-10-2009, 03:32 PM
Oh dear DF, That is horrible, :-(

ticky
01-10-2009, 03:48 PM
Awe DF!! Im so sorry! Sounds like you're having one heck of a start to the new year. I hope it's all about Karma, ya know? Maybe you're getting the bad all out of the way now and there's just GOOD coming your way!! Enjoy the concert. it sounds like you deserve it!!!

Jenni is getting ready for college in the fall. She's had a few eye openers in the last few months. She wasnt accepted to the university she wanted to go to, she isnt getting all the scholarships she thought she would etc.. It's hard to see her disappointed, but she really needed a good dose of reality too. She's putting applications in at UofO (something she would not have DEEMED to do a few months ago) and is being a little more realistic. I still cant get her to look at Portland State (an excellent university and one where several of her friends are going) but she's slowly softening. I just hope she doesn't wait too long and loose out on the scholarships that are available.... oh.. and she got a tatoo.. UGH!

Brooke
01-10-2009, 04:01 PM
DF, my goodness. I'm so sorry for all the bad times you are having. Try to keep a positive outlook and I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Good luck to your daughter ticky, on figuring it all out, too.

EagleLady
01-10-2009, 04:15 PM
Grrrr I cannot get Myspace to cooperate. It keeps saying incorrect Captcha when I have given the correct one everytime :brickwall:

Peekaboo
01-10-2009, 05:01 PM
Oh Dana, I'm sorry to hear about all that. Like Ticky, I believe in Karma too. There will be lots of good to come in the near future. You and yours will be in thoughts and prayers.

And Rhonda, I'm sure your daughter will have everything all worked out soon. I've been there. It took me a long time to decide where i wanted to go to college. I almost went to a a school in a completely different state but once i was recruited to the University of Oklahoma, where I always dreamed to go, I jumped at the chance and my mom was so much happier that i was only going to be an hour and a half away rather than 8 hours.

DonFan
01-10-2009, 05:23 PM
Ticky, Rachel got a tattoo too--a ying yang symbol on her left wrist. Her first year at college, she came home with a lip ring. !!!
What is your daughter's tattoo?

TimothyBFan
01-10-2009, 05:43 PM
What's up with this---Dillon got a tattoo also---a peace sign on the right wrist!

DF-all I can say are hugs to you and your friends and family from me here in Indiana! Sounds like you all have a lot on your platter right now.

ticky
01-10-2009, 06:48 PM
Wow.. its an epidemic!! She was going to get one one her wrist but FORTUNATELY she got it on the back of her neck under her hair, and it's relatively harmless. Its a peace sign with "Let It Be" written over it, and its in black ink. She's been talking about piercings too.. UGH I don't even want to go there!! Her good friend has her belly button and nose done, but I'm really hoping it just doesn't happen at all. Tattoo I can deal with, a pierced nose... not so much.

Peekaboo
01-10-2009, 07:00 PM
Maybe it's an age thing, i don't know. I got my first (and only) tattoo when I was 23. I'll be 25 in 9 days. My cousin and I were talking about getting tattoos together when I go to Florida in a few weeks. I wouldn't mind getting another tattoo but I can't see myself with peircings in any place other than my ears, which btw i have 3 on each ear.

ticky
01-10-2009, 07:13 PM
*G* Ear's are different. I have two in each ear and Jen has three in each ear. I have yet to see a nose ring that does not look like a pimple or a lurker. And lip rings tend to look like hair lips or drool. IF you have an incredible body, IF you're 18 and an aerobics instructor with a body fat index of less then 2% THEN a belly button ring MIGHT be attractive IF you can keep it from getting stuck in your zipper and tearing out (No joke, it's happened.. it's not pretty) But for the most part Im all for keeping the piercings to the ears. (and please none of those gaged holes!! yeesh! I dont need someplace to keep spare change THAT bad!)

DonFan
01-10-2009, 10:48 PM
Well, my daughter's lip ring doesn't look like a hair lip or drool. It is relatively small and on the side of her mouth, and after 1 1/2 years I barely notice it anymore, but I still wish she would get rid of it.

EagleLady
01-10-2009, 10:57 PM
well personally, I think Piercings are expressive, and cool.

sodascouts
01-11-2009, 01:18 AM
DF, I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles. You're in my thoughts and prayers as well. At least your daughter's early departure from that party gave you one less thing to worry about.

Ticky, I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's disappointment but it sounds like, with a little help from Mom, she'll bounce back and do what she needs to do to get into a good college, even if it's not her first choice.

chaleymom
01-11-2009, 01:31 AM
alright - I guess I need to jump in here too on the tattoo/piercings subject..... my daughter got her first tattoo on her 18th birthday last year. When she finally showed it to me several weeks later - I didn't want to make a big deal out of it it and just told her I was disappointed she spent money on it - and I didn't even see the point since it's behind her left ear!!! She told me she just wanted to get one (sort of an independence thing) and didn't want it to be somewhere where a future employer would have a problem with it - or something she'd regret later (wise decision I thought...) I'm used to it now and finally told her I actually thought it was sort of cool (she added onto to it again right before she left for college. It is four small stars and a musical note. She also has her ears pierced three on each side and one up at the top of one ear (a small bar - YIKES! I don't care for that one). She also has had her belly button pierced for 2 years - but she's tiny enough to be able to pull it off. No face piercings thank God!! My son, on the other hand has his ears gaged (yuck!) about the size that a pencil could fit through. He did that while he was in a band. Not crazy about them, but I honestly don't even notice them when I see him. I guess the important thing is - the tattoos and piercings doesn't change who they are. They are great kids - who just like to express their independence I guess!! Oh - and my 'other' son - (the one I've talked about) - I noticed he also has a small gold ring in one ear!!! guess it runs in the family~~~

TimothyBFan
01-11-2009, 11:04 AM
I couldn't say much to Dillon about the tattoo--Mom has 3 herself. I love my tatoos, don't regret even one of them...yet! I will admit, I always wanted to get my nose pierced with just a little diamond chip also but I'm chicken. I'm afraid what will happen when I get a cold. I also agree they don't change the person that has them. I only have my ears pierced a couple of times. Had the upper part of the ear pierced twice also but let those grow shut. The only thing I will say negative about a tattoo is you can't get rid of it, not very easy or cheaply anyways. At least piercings you can let grow shut again.

EagleLady
01-11-2009, 11:07 AM
I have always thought about getting my nose pierced, but never really came to fruition.

glenneaglesfan
01-13-2009, 06:49 PM
This is the first time I've had the chance to come here for many days. Sadly, my father passed away last Saturday, 10 January. I had visited him in hospital on the Friday before, and was prepared for the worst, but not so quickly. I'd decided to continue with plans to visit my in-laws in Kent for the weekend, knowing my sister was with my mother. 15 minutes after D and I got to Kent the phone went to say my father had suddenly taken a turn for the worse, and by the time my sister reached the hospital he had died peacefully. My mother is coming to terms with it bit by bit, and in the meantime my sister and I are trying to sort out powers of attorney, funeral arrangements and financial stuff. ( Those of you who don't know already - my mother has Alzheimers)

On a lighter note, may I say how much I have chuckled reading these last few posts about piercings and tattoos. My younger son got a friend to pierce his ear, but unfortunately the wrong side, as pointed out gleefully by his older brother the next day. He got the other ear pierced asap! I've never wanted more than my one set of pierced ears, but since our renewed commitment, hubby has ventured to suggest that I could have a discrete tat, maybe a butterfly, above my ankle.

After a hard day of collecting certificates and making funeral arrangements, my sister and I have agreed that we'll have a quiet cremation next week, with just our close family, and then have a service of thanksgiving in his home town the following week.

Glennsallnighter
01-13-2009, 06:51 PM
Awww, Kate! I was only thinking about you tonight on my way home from work. I'm so very sorry. :-(

Your whole family are in my thoughts and prayers. :hug:

Freypower
01-13-2009, 06:56 PM
I'm very sorry, Kate. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Troubadour
01-13-2009, 06:57 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about your father, Kate. Lots of warm wishes to you and your family. You are doing a tremendous job arranging everything and taking care of your mum. I wish you continued strength in this difficult time :hug: I'm always glad to see that you've been able to drop in to The Border - we're all thinking of you.

EagleLady
01-13-2009, 07:03 PM
I am very sorry to hear that Kate. Thoughts and prayers are with you in this trying time Glad you could find time to stop by. :hug:

:grouphug:

sodascouts
01-13-2009, 08:22 PM
Kate, I'm terribly sorry about your father. It sounds like you are staying strong even though you have a lot to deal with, to say the least. I'll continue to pray for you and your family.

DonFan
01-13-2009, 08:46 PM
Kate, I'm so sorry to hear about your father's death. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

Molly
01-13-2009, 09:18 PM
Kate, my heartfelt symphathy to you and your family. May all the best thoughts and memories be what you're filled with now. He'll always be close to you that way!

ticky
01-14-2009, 12:03 AM
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Kate. My best to you all. God Bless

Peekaboo
01-14-2009, 12:17 AM
Oh Kate, i'm very sorry about your father. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

TimothyBFan
01-14-2009, 07:46 AM
Kate-My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family now. Stay strong!

Prettymaid
01-14-2009, 08:23 AM
GEF, I'm sorry to hear about your dad. So glad you can check in here from time to time to lighten your thoughts.

Brooke
01-14-2009, 11:07 AM
Kate, I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad's passing. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Thanks for stopping in to let us know. :hug:

As far as tats and piercings, I only have my ears pierced- once.

I remember when my daughter wanted to get another piercing in one ear at the top. I was horrified. Why would she want one there? :shrug: Then a couple years ago she came home for a visit in the summer and there was a star tattoo on one wrist. It's ok, but I don't love it. And at Christmas I noticed she has another one on the other arm. Oh, and she has a very tiny nose stud, which I think is kind of cute.

The son called us from his senior trip several years ago and told us he had gotten a tattoo on his upper arm. His last name. What was I going to do about it then?! I guess if he ever forgets who he is he can always look at his arm! He also had to get one ear pierced, which I just knew his uncles would rip out of his ear as soon as they saw it. They didn't. He now has both ears pierced and wears diamond studs. I don't like them. But evidently his girlfriend does. :rolleyes:

At least neither of them have any other piercings or tats. That I know about! :lol:

tbs fanatic
01-14-2009, 11:45 AM
So sorry to hear about your Father, Kate. I'm sure you're very busy with all the arrangements, and helping your Mum. Remember to take some time for yourself. Thinking of you.

EasyFeeling
01-15-2009, 05:25 AM
Oh Kate, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. :sad: My deepest symphathy for you and your family.

glenneaglesfan
01-17-2009, 07:58 PM
Thank you all for your kind messages of sympathy. My sister and I have been busy sorting out banks, solicitors and making arrangements for a thanksgiving service for our Dad's life. Mum is dealing with it in her own way. I have told her about your support from around the world, and she has appreciated it.

sodascouts
01-17-2009, 08:13 PM
Thanks for checking in, Kate. I just wish there was more we could do!

eaglesvet
01-17-2009, 10:05 PM
Kate, I'm adding my condolences for the loss of your father. It must be a warm feeling to think of us praying for your family from all over the world, as you said!

Glennsallnighter
01-18-2009, 06:05 PM
I too am thinking of your family Kate, and keeping them in my prayers.

Mrs Frey
01-19-2009, 06:47 AM
This is the first time I've had the chance to come here for many days. Sadly, my father passed away last Saturday, 10 January. I had visited him in hospital on the Friday before, and was prepared for the worst, but not so quickly. I'd decided to continue with plans to visit my in-laws in Kent for the weekend, knowing my sister was with my mother. 15 minutes after D and I got to Kent the phone went to say my father had suddenly taken a turn for the worse, and by the time my sister reached the hospital he had died peacefully. My mother is coming to terms with it bit by bit, and in the meantime my sister and I are trying to sort out powers of attorney, funeral arrangements and financial stuff. ( Those of you who don't know already - my mother has Alzheimers)

After a hard day of collecting certificates and making funeral arrangements, my sister and I have agreed that we'll have a quiet cremation next week, with just our close family, and then have a service of thanksgiving in his home town the following week.

Oh Kate, I feel awful that I only now have a chance to extend my deepest empathy to you and your family. Please know that my thoughts are with you and I wish you every strength in order to get through this difficult time. :hug: :hug: :hug:

Stars
01-19-2009, 09:25 AM
Kate, I was so sorry to hear about your father. Please accept my deepest sympathies, and know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God bless all of you, and may your father rest in peace.

Just Another Hired Hand
01-21-2009, 09:11 PM
This is the first time I've had the chance to come here for many days. Sadly, my father passed away last Saturday, 10 January. I had visited him in hospital on the Friday before, and was prepared for the worst, but not so quickly. I'd decided to continue with plans to visit my in-laws in Kent for the weekend, knowing my sister was with my mother. 15 minutes after D and I got to Kent the phone went to say my father had suddenly taken a turn for the worse, and by the time my sister reached the hospital he had died peacefully. My mother is coming to terms with it bit by bit, and in the meantime my sister and I are trying to sort out powers of attorney, funeral arrangements and financial stuff. ( Those of you who don't know already - my mother has Alzheimers)



I just read the above post. I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Your are in our (Tiffanny Twisted and I) thoughts. May God give you strength and courage during this difficult time.

Troubadour
01-22-2009, 08:20 AM
This is probably the last chance I'll get to come online before I leave for the weekend, so I thought I'd just post quickly! I'm off to London to meet up with a couple of girls I volunteered with in South Africa (we're spread out over the country now, but we try to meet up every few months, if possible.) After a hectic week at work, I'm really looking forward to a few days of laughter, shopping and eating out. And maybe a wee bit of drinking too... ;) Hope everyone else has a great weekend, whatever you get up to!

Prettymaid
01-22-2009, 09:26 AM
Have fun Troub!

Peekaboo
01-22-2009, 05:31 PM
I recieved some bad news on tuesday. My uncle had a massive stroke early monday morning. For some reason, the hospital wasn't able to get ahold of any family till tuesday morning. He was put on life support and the doctor told us that he was brain dead and there's nothing that could be done to save him. My cousin from Florida (the one that I mentioned on here before that is like a sister to me) flew in late tuesday night to be with her father. With family by his side, my uncle passed away yesterday afternoon. He was 47 years old. I'm doing my best to stay strong and to be there for my cousin and for my dad (He was my dad's younger brother) but it's just so hard. My cousin just lost her grandmother one month ago and had to fly back again this month for her dad. It was all so sudden for my uncle. He was always such a strong guy that it's so hard to believe he's gone. I'm really going to miss him. I don't know yet if I'll still be going to Florida next week. Right now it looks like I won't be going. That's something that I have to talk over with my cousin because I don't know when she will be going back. I'll let you all know when I can if i'll still be making that Florida trip and get to see the guys in concert again. I guess it's a good thing that I decided to wait to get my concert tickets.

EagleLady
01-22-2009, 05:35 PM
Oh Jess I am so sorry to hear that. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. :hug:

ticky
01-22-2009, 05:38 PM
That's terrible news Jess. My thoughts are with you and your family. *HUGS* and well wishes to you and your cousin.

Prettymaid
01-22-2009, 06:36 PM
Wow Jess, 47 years old... I so sorry for your loss.

Freypower
01-22-2009, 06:48 PM
I add my sympathy to the above posts, Jess. That is very sad.

DonFan
01-22-2009, 06:49 PM
I'm so sorry, Jess. He was only 47? That is so young. My condolences to you and your family.

chaleymom
01-22-2009, 07:01 PM
Awww Jess and Kate.... I just read of your losses and I'm so very sorry for you. Sending out hugs, thoughts and prayers....

Jess - your uncle was so young.... just goes to show we just never know when our time is huh?

Kate - I can sympathize with you too. Although I still have my parents with me (dad is 87 and mom is 83) - I know I don't have a whole lot of time left with them. My mom has Altzheimers too and as you know, it's a terrible, terrible disease. Mom has good days every now and then, but then there are days like today when she calls me 6 times and asks me where she is and when she's going home... (she's been in Assisted Living since the end of April). She also called last night to ask me if her sisters were still living..... (one died 3 years ago and the other died 20 years ago). Dad continues to be lonesome for mom - and says he's "ready for the Good Lord to take him." ahhhh....

Maybe just a subtle reminder for all of us to tell all our loved ones in our lives how much they mean to us - as Garth Brooks' song says "So tell that someone that you love, just what you're thinking of, If Tomorrow Never Comes."

sodascouts
01-22-2009, 07:08 PM
I'm so sorry, Jess. 47 is terribly young for someone to go, and on top of the earlier family tragedy... wow. I'll be praying for you, your cousin, and your family.

And missing the Eagles show that you've had your heart set on won't be easy, either. Although, if you are still able to go, you might consider it. I went to a Stevie Nicks concert one time after the death of a close friend's father and it actually helped a bit.

Peekaboo
01-23-2009, 12:05 AM
Thank you everybody. Your thoughts and prayers are very much appreciated. 47 is too young for anybody to pass away. My uncle was the youngest of his brothers and sisters. I know i'm going to be okay and my dad is dealing with this in his own way but i'm mostly worried about my cousin. She's been through so much these past couple of months. But I know that she can get through this, she's a strong person inside and out. What Chaleymom said about telling those you love how much they mean to you is so right. I see what my cousin is going through and I find myself wanting to be even closer to my dad as well as with the rest of my family.

Chaleymom, i love that Garth Brooks line that you posted.

Glennsallnighter
01-23-2009, 06:00 AM
This is probably the last chance I'll get to come online before I leave for the weekend, so I thought I'd just post quickly! I'm off to London to meet up with a couple of girls I volunteered with in South Africa (we're spread out over the country now, but we try to meet up every few months, if possible.) After a hectic week at work, I'm really looking forward to a few days of laughter, shopping and eating out. And maybe a wee bit of drinking too... ;) Hope everyone else has a great weekend, whatever you get up to!


I've just seen this now Lou as I haven't had any time on the Border this week. Have a great weekend. I'll be dying to hear how you got on!

Glennsallnighter
01-23-2009, 06:04 AM
PaB I've just read about your loss as well. I am so sorry for your uncle and your family and will keep them in my prayers. :hug:

I'm with Soda on the gig thing. If you can get there at all it would be really great, and might help you in the long run as well.

TimothyBFan
01-23-2009, 09:41 AM
PB--My thoughts are also with you and your family!

Brooke
01-23-2009, 11:49 AM
How sad, Pb. I'll be thinking of you and your family, too.

ticky
01-24-2009, 01:36 PM
Okay ya'll, Im heading out for our girls weekend at the coast! and to see CCR (or the semi/partial equivalent) Im meeting Cami at the hotel and we're going shopping, then out for a nice seafood dindin and then the concert!! (its a DATE!) hehehe back tomorrow night! see ya'll!!

Brooke
01-24-2009, 02:57 PM
Have a great time ticky and Cami!

EagleLady
01-24-2009, 05:23 PM
I got a Job working in the Guardian Ad Litem office with My Mom I am really excited. I'll be working Mon, Tues, Thurs, 10-1. and Saturdays if Needed.

Glennsallnighter
01-24-2009, 07:10 PM
Have a Blast Ticky and Cami! I know you've been looking forward to this weekend for a while. Enjoy yourselves and travel safely!!


EL Thats great news about your job. Congratulations. I hope you enjoy it.

On the jobs front my new one is going better than I ever expected. It is keeping me busy mornings and evenings but I'm free afternoons which is when I need to be here for the kids. I can pretty much work my own schedule once I get everything done within a particular time frame. So apologies if I'm not getting as much tie to reply to pms etc. I'll do it eventually!

My dad had a health scare Tuesday when a hernia was giving him problems late that evening. He was in severe pain and my mother was afraid it had ruptured but luckily a locum doctor was able to visit him and sort it out. However he will need surgery in the next few weeks. He is nearly 83.

EagleLady
01-24-2009, 07:12 PM
Thanks Lisa. Sorry to hear about your dad. Hope he gets better soon.

glenneaglesfan
01-26-2009, 05:25 PM
Peekaboo, I'm so sad to hear about your uncle. My condolences go to all your family, and especially you and your cousin. It's so hard when someone dies, and so much harder when they are so young. I'll be thinking of you all.

Troub, have a great time in London. I have such happy recollections of meeting up with my internet friends.

Ticky and Cami, hope your weekend turns out well!

EL, good to hear about your new job. Hope it goes well.

GA, glad to hear about your new job going well, and especially about your tickets for Galway. I live in hope that I'll return to normality soon. What I wouldn't give right now to join you there!

MF, it's lovely to hear from you again. I am overwhelmed by the fact that we did meet up, and had such a lot of fun, and shared our Glenn love.

To everyone who has sent kind messages, I thank you again. The funeral was last Friday, and the thanksgiving service is on 29th January. We remember our father with much love.

EagleLady
01-26-2009, 05:26 PM
Awww Thanks Kate. It's good to hear from you. :hug:

ticky
01-26-2009, 05:42 PM
Hey! congrats on the job El! Im sure you'll do great :)

Thanks everyone, We had a great time at the concert (My review's under the concerts thread) The coast was beautiful as always and the company couldnt have been better *G*

EagleLady
01-26-2009, 05:47 PM
Thanks Rhonda. Today was Day 2, Just did some data input.

Peekaboo
01-27-2009, 02:48 AM
I'm finally back from a long and draining week. As tiring as this week was, it was really great to be with my family. Everything went perfectly for my uncle's funeral, from the smallest to the biggest details. Although sad, it was a very lovely service. I really appreciate the thoughts and prayers from all of you. It really means a lot. I had a long talk with my cousin and the decision was made, I will be leaving for Florida as we had originally planned a few months ago. I think it's perfect timing because she is not yet ready to be away from any family and after all that has happened, i could sure use a vacation. I'll be flying out early wednesday morning and arrive in Tampa that afternoon. Although I still don't have concert tickets yet, I'm hoping that some kind of miracle will happen and we will make it to the St. Pete Times Forum to see the guys do what they do best.

sodascouts
01-27-2009, 03:01 AM
GEF and Peekaboo, I'm glad the services went well. Peek, I've got my fingers crossed for you to get good seats in St. Petersburg.

Hope your dad feels better soon, GA.

Brooke
01-27-2009, 05:05 PM
It's very cold here today, 17 right now, and snowing. This morning when I got up to get ready for work, I thought, brrrrrr, it's cold in here. I checked the thermostat and it said 62. Hmmmm, it was set on 68 for the night. It should NOT be 62. I then turned up the thermostat to 72 and listened. Nothing. Ok. I headed for the basement to check the breaker box. All switches are on, but I flipped the furnace one just for good measure. Nothing.

Now, hubby is laid off work for the winter and keeps busy doing odd jobs for people and honey-do jobs for me when he has time. This is a normal occurance since he works in highway construction and we've gotten used to it over the years, mostly, BUT today he had to go to safety meetings for work to a town an hour and a half away which meant he left at 5:30 a.m. An hour before I got up. So, I called his cell to see if he noticed it being rather cold when he got up. Nope, he was in a hurry and never noticed. Well, what should I do? Call the Heating & Air people. Great!

Now how is it that the ONLY day this winter that he could not be home, the furnace breaks down? Someone please tell me?! :brickwall:

Anyway, 58 degrees, 4 hours, and $200 later we are fixed and have heat. :yay:

Glennsallnighter
01-27-2009, 06:59 PM
To everyone who has sent kind messages, I thank you again. The funeral was last Friday, and the thanksgiving service is on 29th January. We remember our father with much love.

You are so Welcome Kate. I have been thinking of your dear father over the last few weeks and praying for him, and your family, as well as the others who are going through challenging times at present.



GA, glad to hear about your new job going well, and especially about your tickets for Galway. I live in hope that I'll return to normality soon. What I wouldn't give right now to join you there!



Our wires must have gotten crossed Kate. Its actually Belfast that Laura and I are going to on our own, (ie uninhibited :partytime: :partytime: :partytime:). It would be wonderful if you could indeed make it and join us there, but I understand the pressure you are under.

Peekaboo! I'm glad your uncle's funeral went off well. I'm sure you did him proud. I hope you do a Soda and manage to get brilliant seats at the Tampa gig!! Good Luck!Have a great time! :bye::bye::bye:

Brooke! I suppose you can now say 'The Heat Is On!!

DonFan
01-27-2009, 07:28 PM
Now how is it that the ONLY day this winter that he could not be home, the furnace breaks down? Someone please tell me?! :brickwall:


Isn't that the way it always happens?? Anyway, glad you got it fixed!

GA--love "the heat is on" comment! :rofl:

Brooke
01-27-2009, 10:27 PM
Yep, me too Ga! The heat is on! :yay:

Peekaboo
01-27-2009, 10:46 PM
Well, my Florida trip is not looking good so far. My flight in the morning has been canceled due to the weather and i was on the phone for half an hour getting it rescheduled. The weather here is bad and i'm hoping that my rescheduled flight won't get canceled. My cousin is flying back with me and she is not feeling very well at all so i'm starting to wonder if we're even going to make it to the concert. I feel like my mind is all over the place as i'm trying to get my apartment cleaned up and get my bags packed.

EagleLady
01-27-2009, 10:47 PM
Oh No Jess I hope you get to go to the concert :pray:

TimothyBFan
01-28-2009, 09:54 AM
Oh PB I hope you are in the air right now or very soon. Fingers are crossed for you! I need you to go to this concert!! Don't you know people like me live to hear about others experiences? :hilarious:

Brooke-isn't that the way it usually is? Usually one of the coldest days of the year also. We had a new furnace put in in October because we had a few problems last year. I told Larry a couple of weeks ago when the temps started dropping way below 0, that you know that would of been the time the old furnace would of crapped out on us.

Brooke
01-28-2009, 11:24 AM
Yup, TBF, that's is usually the way it goes. For me anyway. And we had a maintenance check done last summer when they were there working on the air conditioning.

:rolleyes:

Pb, fingers are crossed for you getting to Tampa today. :pray:

Peekaboo
01-28-2009, 11:29 AM
Well, because of the this crazy weather we got goin on here, I'm leaving for the airport for my flight this afternoon. First things first, make it to Tampa. Second, make it to the concert tomorrow night. Hopefully everything will go smoothly once we take off from Oklahoma. I don't know that i'll have internet access while i'm there but i'll try to let you all know something as soon as i can. I'll be coming back home late next tuesday night so if all else fails, i will talk to you all then.

ticky
01-28-2009, 11:59 AM
Have a Great time PB!! I'll be thinking of ya!

Glennsallnighter
01-28-2009, 06:42 PM
Brooke-isn't that the way it usually is? Usually one of the coldest days of the year also. We had a new furnace put in in October because we had a few problems last year. I told Larry a couple of weeks ago when the temps started dropping way below 0, that you know that would of been the time the old furnace would of crapped out on us.


So true! My mom always reckoned that the heating system was on 'overtime' the coldest days of winter and the freezer on the hottest summer days. They were always bound to complain!!

Stars
01-30-2009, 10:37 AM
Yesterday I returned to work after being away for the week in New Orleans. I don't know if I was just over tired or not paying attention, but I tripped on something in the library where I work, tried to grab a shelving cart to save myself, and ended up on the floor on my back, with the cart on top of me! I guess I forgot it was on wheels! At any rate, I bruised my lower back, and also bruised my arm, from the cart! I was so lucky, though, that it wasn't a lot worse!:angel: (I think I had an angel watching over me!)

EagleLady
01-30-2009, 11:09 AM
Ouch. Glad it wasn't any more serious than that.

TimothyBFan
01-30-2009, 11:25 AM
Stars--You apparently have my dream job--I have always wanted to work in a library around all the books I could ever imagine. My husband said I would be fired within a week because I would get nothing done, I'd be to busy reading. :roll: He's probably right but I can only imagine what it would be like to work around one of my favorite things in the world all day!

BTW-Sorry about your mishap tho!

Glennsallnighter
01-30-2009, 12:11 PM
Oh Stars! I'm so glad that you weren't more seriously injured. I hope the bruising isn't too painful. I guess your mind may have been elsewhere!
TBF I had your dream job for about 4 years when I was in charge of the library in the school I was working in! It certainly was extremely tempting to dive into one or more of those books that I remembered from when I was growing up! Chief among them the 'little house on the prairie' ones and the 'Anne of Green Gables' ones!

Troubadour
01-30-2009, 06:09 PM
Sorry to hear about your fall, Stars - I hope your bruises heal quickly! :hug:

Maleah
01-30-2009, 07:55 PM
Well, I've fallen waaaaay behind on each of your lives because I haven't visited this thread in FOREVER! Please forgive me for missing any big events that deserved congratulations or any sad events that should have received a condolense. :(

As for me, I'm just livin' through a nasty North Dakota winter. lol We've gone from -45 to 30 above, which makes it feel like a heat wave! lol Due to a lot of different reasons, me and a couple of friends are STRONGLY leaning towards moving to the Nashville, TN area in a couple of years. We briefly considered Texas but the hurricane stuff scared me. lol

Oh yeah....and I get to see the boys again in exactly 44 days :cheers:

Glennsallnighter
01-30-2009, 08:31 PM
We understand Maleah. I'd say that it is a very tough type of weather to live through. Good luck with whatever you decide to do. I hope you make the right choice.

Have a wonderful time in 44 days as well.

Well my dad was taken into hospital a few hours ago with the same hernia problem that has been annoying him for a while. However it has become 'strangulated' and needs surgery. Apparently its routine enough and should relieve all the discomfort he has been feeling for a while now. He will be in for a few days. But when he's 82 one worries!

Maleah
01-30-2009, 08:57 PM
Aww your poor dad GA. :( I'll say a prayer for him! And of course, you'll let us know how everything goes.......right? :)

sodascouts
01-30-2009, 10:30 PM
Ouch, Stars - sorry to hear about your fall! Glad it's not worse, though. My Mom was the church librarian when I was growing up. We'd show up 2 hours before services on Sunday and Wednesday evenings, and always stay a bit over as well. To amuse myself, I started reading...and reading...and reading. I read everything from Sherlock Holmes to Agatha Christie to Ben Hur to the Chronicles of Narnia. I think that my voracious reading is what made me into what I am today - with a PhD in English and a heck of a vocabulary. ;)

GA - I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I'll pray for him, too.

Maleah - moving can be really exciting! I always loved Texas, and if you're far enough inland, hurricanes are rare. Just avoid towns like Galveston, or my old hometown Beaumont down near the Louisiana border. However, Tennessee is tons of fun too... good luck wherever you wind up!

timfan
01-31-2009, 02:15 PM
Well I've got big news! As of this afternoon the renovations to my new house ( which have been going on for 6 months) are fully complete FINALLY!! I couldn't be happier:applause: It's been a long road ( to use a a familiar phrase hehehe) but I'm glad we got it done.

Thanks everyone for your support and understanding over the last 6 months. I really appreciate it. :thumbsup:

Brooke
01-31-2009, 02:39 PM
I'm sure you are glad you renovations are done, timfan. Hopefully you can spend more time here with us now! We've missed you!

Maleah, good luck with deciding where to move! I don't think I would like ND with all that COLD, for sure. Tennesee or Texas would be much warmer for you!

Ga, good luck to your Dad with his surgery. Hopefully all will go well and he will be fine. He's my Dad's age, and I definitely understand your stress.

ticky
01-31-2009, 03:23 PM
Congrats Kath!! Yea! I know it's been a long journey but Im sure it was all well worth it!

Maleah~ I dont blame you for moving to someplace warm *G* Go girl!! If I could I'd move someplace warmer too!! Either move sounds great! Best of luck!

GA. I hope your Dad comes through with flying colors and his hernia problem is finished from now on!

Stars~ OUCH! Heal fast!! Crushed by books! *G* sounds like something out of a Stephen King Novel! how ironic. Hope you feel better soon :)

I woke up this morning with a Migraine, something that hasn't happened for a while, so Im a little worried. Means I'll have to make an appointment with my pulmonary specialist and he's not going to be thrilled.. ACK, more testing.. bleh! Hopefully it'll be nothing big. In the mean time, I'll drink lots of coffee and wear sunglasses. How cool am I? hehehe

Stars
01-31-2009, 04:12 PM
Ticky, sorry to hear about your migraine-hope you feel better fast! Thanks for your good wishes for my healing! Actually, the shelving cart was empty when it fell on me-if it had been full of books, I may have been buried alive!:help:

GA, your dad is certainly in my prayers. Hope his surgery goes well, and that he heals quickly.:thumbsup:

Stars
01-31-2009, 04:18 PM
TBF, working in a library is my dream job too! For many many years I was a preschool teacher, and even though I loved the kids, after a while I had a yearning to do something else-that and I was starting to become burned out!
I have always loved to read, and working in a library seemed like the ideal job for me!:thumbsup:
I've been there for three years now, and I love it, in spite of my little mishap the other day. I have never read so many books in my life. Sometimes I even get a chance to read on the job, during the rare times things are slow!:)

Freypower
01-31-2009, 06:00 PM
I don't post in this topic often because my life is so quiet. However yesterday we went on a trip to a Buddhist temple just south of Wollongong (which is the next city after Sydney). It is the largest such place in the southern hemisphere and is also a Buddhist crematorium. The atmosphere was very tranquil. Here are Rosalind & I with one of the lion statues (limited time)

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v242/ozeagle/Wallpaper/Miscellaneous/Temple.jpg

sodascouts
02-01-2009, 03:49 PM
TF - wow, they're finally done? I thought it would never end!!

FP - lovely photo. Rosalind looks a lot like her mom!

ticky - sorry to hear about your migraines. My mom had problems with those occasionally until she went through "the change" (aka menopause) and now she never has any. I know they're rough, though.

Glennsallnighter
02-01-2009, 05:47 PM
TF! I'm delighted that your renovations are finally finished.:yay::yay::yay: I know you have had some stressful times since they started. Enjoy your new home.

Ticky, I hope the migraine isn't too serious. Keep on the coffee if it helps. :hug:

FP, you and Rosalind look great. Are they Chinese lanterns hanging in the Background. I have been working with Laura on a project about China. She had to research a topic and do about 2 pages. She made a book about Chinese flowers.

Thanks to you all for your good wishes for my dad. The good news is that the op was a success and that physically he is doing fine. However he appears to be more confused than expected at this stage after surgery so the may do a scan tomorrow if he doesn't improve. Of course he thinks he is getting out tomorrow but we'll have to see! Thanks again. I really appreciate the thoughts and prayers of everyone. I too am keeping in mind those of you going through rough times.

Brooke
02-01-2009, 08:48 PM
Lovely photo, Fp. Rosalind is a cutie! It's pretty hot in Australia now isn't it?

Good luck with the migraine, ticky. Take care of yourself.

Troubadour
02-02-2009, 02:06 PM
Sorry to hear you're suffering, Rhonda. Hope you manage to get things sorted :hug:

We're five inches deep in snow here (unusual for southern England) and it looks set to get worse before it gets better. My Mum gave me a lift this morning because the first bus didn't arrive, but we only got to the bend/slight hill at the end of our road and realised how slippery it was. Another car was coming down the hill and started skidding. He couldn't do a thing and crashed into us head-on, sending our car into the kerb. Within ten minutes, three more cars came, attempted the hill and joined the pile up! Luckily we were out of the car by then. I felt OK at first, but soon began feeling quite nauseous and developed pain and stiffness across my shoulders and neck. I've just seen the doctor and I have whiplash, which he expects, like the snow, will get worse before it gets better. I've stocked up on Ibuprofen and hot chocolate! The good news is that I have the next three days off work so I have time to take it easy and relax. My Houston DVD arrived from eBay this afternoon, so at least that will provide a bit of comfort and entertainment for later. I'm feeling pretty groggy, but we're lucky it wasn't a lot worse.

eaglesvet
02-02-2009, 02:20 PM
Oh brother, Troub...that must have been a bit scary! Glad things were not worse...presumably your mom was OK? Rest up! Whiplash does get worse before it gets better...I suffered from it a number of years back in a minor car accident also.

Troubadour
02-02-2009, 02:28 PM
Thanks, EV. Mum is fine, luckily - although obviously whiplash can develop a while after the jolt so we're keeping our fingers crossed she won't suffer too. The collision was more on my side of the car, so that probably made it a bit worse for me. As you said, we were really very lucky. We saw a few more collisions afterwards. I dread to think what would have happened if they had sent the buses out. A bus coming around that corner and skidding would have been horrendous.

ticky
02-02-2009, 02:40 PM
Oh Lou! Yikes! Im so glad you guys weren't in the car when the other hit! Im so sorry about your whiplash. That's awful! but Im happy your Mom's alright.
What a scary thing. Don't you know No job is worth that? *G* Get yourself a sugardaddy and stay home on snowy days hehehehe
Take care of yourself and enjoy that vid! Now that's the best medicine I can think of.

Troubadour
02-02-2009, 02:53 PM
Don't you know No job is worth that? *G* Get yourself a sugardaddy and stay home on snowy days hehehehe

Got anyone in mind? ;)

Thanks, Rhonda. And you're right - once I get that DVD on, my pain will be well and truly forgotten. Nothing better than a little Eagles remedy!

Brooke
02-02-2009, 03:26 PM
Oh my gosh, Troub, I'm so glad you or your Mom weren't hurt worse than you were. Take care of yourself and maybe the whiplash won't get any worse.

Last week during one of our snow days my car slid through a stop sign on my gravel road and out on to a fairly busy 2 lane highway. I kept applying the brakes like they tell you when you have ABS, but the car did not stop. Thankfully no one was coming as I slid on to the highway. It was very scary. I'd never had that happen before. I didn't think I was going very fast and that I had time to stop. But my car would not stop! This happened twice in the past month. Now I am very, very careful when the roads are slick. I was very, very lucky, as cars are usually traveling at least 55 mph on this highway. :stunned:

Troubadour
02-02-2009, 03:47 PM
How scary, Brooke. Thank goodness the road was clear. It really does make you think when things like this happen.

I'm just watching the news and, if you look on the bright side, it's quite funny. A few inches of snow and the whole of the UK comes to a standstill. Us Brits just can't cope with "extreme" weather!

sodascouts
02-02-2009, 07:34 PM
Troub, I thought about you Brits when I heard about the snow over there. An accident - how horrible! I'm glad you're relatively OK, although it sounds like some repairs on the car will be in order. :( Hopefully you will get better soon and your Mom won't have any problems.

Brooke - the same thing happened to me the other day - the car didn't stop due to ice and I got into the path of a bus. Lucky, I was able to accelerate and get out of the way, but it was sure scary!

Stars
02-02-2009, 08:04 PM
Troub, I was so sorry to hear about your accident. I am so glad that it wasn't worse and that you and your mother are doing ok. I also had whiplash about 15 years ago, and it didn't come on til a bit later in the day, after the accident.
I think a snowy day is the perfect opportunity to sip on a cup of hot chocolate and watch that Houston DVD that just arrived. Enjoy our guys and feel better very soon!:thumbsup:

Freypower
02-02-2009, 11:05 PM
Lovely photo, Fp. Rosalind is a cutie! It's pretty hot in Australia now isn't it?

Good luck with the migraine, ticky. Take care of yourself.

Yes. Long hot summer. Melbourne and Adelaide had fires and about 30 people died in both cities last week from heat stress. Here in Sydney we are expecting the heat to reach us by the weekend. I sympathise with Troub after her accident and everyone shivering in the cold up north.

Glennsallnighter
02-03-2009, 06:56 AM
Well Troub, I knew you had been in a crash and that you were going to the Doctor. Sorry to hear its whiplash. I'd been hoping it wasn't. I'm glad your moms ok as well. We've had snow over here as well. A rarety. Like in the UK most things have ground to a standstill. I've posponed this mornings work as the AA have said not to go anywhere unless you have to! Its a morning for coffee, the Border and a good hot :wink: DVD!

Brooke, that skid sounds scary! I'm glad you were ok. Please take care everyone!

And FP, enjoy your hot weather and be careful not to get burned or dehydrated while we shiver!!

DonFan
02-03-2009, 09:03 AM
It is hard to read FP's post about hot weather when we are freezing over here. It is 20 degrees this morning and we are supposed to get a dusting of snow today, which is a rarity in the Deep South. Brrrr...Soda and Brooke, I sympathize with your tales about driving on icy roads. I am dealing with the same thing myself, but I worry about my two daughters driving on the ice even more than myself.

Ticky, I hope you don't get another migraine. I get them occasionally too, and although the headaches are bad, what bothers me more is what my Dr calls the migraine aura, which means my vision becomes blurred. I see wavy lines for 30-45 minutes, making it virtually impossible to read, use the computer, or drive. Depending on what I am doing at the time, that can be really upsetting.

Troub, I hope your whiplash is better too. There is nothing worse than that kind of "pain in the neck."

TimothyBFan
02-03-2009, 10:42 AM
Lou--I certainly hope you are feeling a bit better today! Sorry to hear about the accident and hope your Mom is still feeling fine. Keep watching those Eagles dvds and you will hardly feel the aches!

Ticky-I feel for you girl! I've only had a couple of them in my lifetime but my daughter has suffered with them since she was a toddler. They would get so bad all we could do was give her her medicine, draw the shades and let her sleep it off. She still suffers from them but when she became a vegetarian about 3 years ago they got better and less frequent. We figure that meat obviously was a trigger. She also knows that caffeine and chocolate are big triggers for her but, god love her, she sure has trouble with the whole chocolate thing. She still suffers but has finally figured out that if she gets her meds in her when it first starts coming on instead of waiting, they don't get so severe.

I'm cracking up here about the snow for the UK posts. I have several Sweet board friends that are of course over there and they are having fits. One of them left me a message on my wall on facebook accusing me of sending him the snow! :hilarious: Welcome to my world! At least yours won't last 5 months! BTW--lake effect snow for us again for the next 2 days!

ticky
02-03-2009, 12:27 PM
Thanks everybody about the migraines. It just freaked me out cuz I havent had one since before I had the embolism about 9 years ago and those were warning signs SO.. Im lil freaked.. but I think they were just from EATING PIZZA AND NOT DRINKING!!! (I get dehydrated really easily) So.. dummy Rhonda is making a point to HYDRATE every freakin day. It gets pretty bad when I get em..sometimes I cant even walk and light is really painful but coffee and chocolate actually HELP. The caffeine restricts the blood flow and helps my poor swollen brain. Anyway, Im better and I appreciate all the well wishes *G* thanks guys

I feel for ya'll having the cold and snow! It was pretty warm here yesterday, well in the 50s and Southern Oregon is talking about 70 degrees today :jealous: Spring cant be THAT far away.. right?

sodascouts
02-03-2009, 12:36 PM
Chocolate is a huge trigger for my aunt's migraines but she's also addicted to chocolate, poor thing! She has to inject herself at home with pain killers when it gets really bad.

One Easter she went crazy and ate a whole bag of Cadbury chocolate eggs, then was sick for DAYS!

eaglesvet
02-03-2009, 01:48 PM
Rhonda, I am an experienced migraine sufferer since HS age, so you know I have had a ton of migraines! I have been on a variety of preventative meds that I take daily, just to prevent them from happening. The one I take know is the best one in many moons! Then, if I still get one, the trick is to take something as soon as the pain starts. I have a great prescription drug to kill the pain...it usually works within an hour or 2. The key to caffeine is: it can be a trigger, or it can stop the migraine---it depends on the individual. The problem for me is....in the beginning/early stages, I could potentially drink a cup of coffee and stop the headache. But, then if I don't keep my caffeine consumption to a minimum, and start doing the Starbucks thing just for the whole coffee experience or to stay awake while driving or what ever...so that I go on a coffee run for a number of days, I will actually start having "rebound" headaches. So, as the caffeine is wearing off, the headache returns...so you think you need either more caffeine, or more drugs...then it wears off again about 24 hours later...and the whole thing can be a vicious cycle literally for 3 weeks straight! I hate that! You can't live with them, and you can't live with them! Anyway, it sounds like yours are few and far between, luckily. But definitely, go check out with the pulmonologist.

TimothyBFan
02-03-2009, 02:00 PM
The whole chocolate thing is a curse if it one of your triggers, that's for sure. My daughter loves it and sometimes over indulges and pays. This past summer she went to Chicago with my best friend and her son and they stopped at Cheesecake factory where she ate a huge piece. By the time she made it home that night, she was in tears and throwing up. She was down for 3 days. She had forgotten to take her medicine with her. Pretty sure she won't make that mistake again (the forgetting pills or eating a large slice of chocolate cheesecake!)

The whole light thing sounds familiar too. She literally covers her windows with blankets to block out any light when she gets one. She knows what to do herself now. It was so hard when we had to deal with it when she was little. How do you tell a 3 year old that the pain will go away and why you are pretty much keeping her confined to a DARK room while she is throwing up and crying from the pain. I remember crying with her a few times.

ticky
02-03-2009, 02:14 PM
UGH Willie.. that sounds awful!! My Migraines were mostly brought on by sleep apnea and I'd stop breathing for sometimes 40 to 45 seconds at night.. I sleep with oxygen and a Cpap now and I havent had one for a while.. until the other day. Coffee and Chocolate actually HELP me. My aunt and cousin suffer from migraines as well to the point they need to be hospitalized for it. My aunt carries dark chocolate with her at all times so if it starts, she can caffinate and stop it fast. Im still light sensitive *G* I wear sunglasses all the time when Im outdoors and prefer the dark indoors.
I cant imagine what it would be like to have a young child with it tho. Heartbreaking for sure.

DonFan
02-03-2009, 05:12 PM
Thank goodness chocolate doesn't trigger my migraines or I would be in DEEP trouble! (or a lot skinnier--LOL)

Hubby stopped by the store on the way in to work this morning bec he heard a "meow." A stray kitten had climbed up on the underside of his old truck somehow to get warm and wouldn't come down, and he was afraid to drive off. He had to call the fire dept to get it out. He took it to our neighborhood vet but they aren't accepting strays, so he brought it home. Christina was home sick this morning and she was happy to have a kitten around, but we have had to keep it locked in her room bec our 2-yr-old cat, Muffin, has been hissing & going crazy. I have been calling everyone in the neighborhood asking if they lost a kitten. It is so sweet but hubby says we absolutely can't keep it. We certainly can't afford more vet bills. If no one claims it, I may take it down to our oldest, Rachel, at school tomorrow. She & her roommates are renting a house off-campus and I know she would love a kitten--if she can talk her roommates into it.

Brooke
02-03-2009, 05:17 PM
Awwwww. Good luck finding a new home, DF. I just bet those girls will love it!

Good job, Mr. DF! :thumbsup:

ticky
02-03-2009, 06:13 PM
AWE!! a kitten!!! I love kittens! We adopted a young femal a few months ago and our males are going NUTS!!! and "marking" everything. grrrr... and today.. she BIT ME! and broke the skin! .. but I really do love kittens and would tak another in a second. Im a sucker for punishment *G* and furry little fluff balls with whiskers.

sodascouts
02-03-2009, 07:40 PM
Aw, I wish you good luck too, DF!

Peekaboo
02-04-2009, 03:14 AM
I'm finally back from Florida. I just got in about an hour ago and of course this is the first place I came to. It was a wonderful trip that went by way too fast. Although I had a great time and I am glad to be home, I hated leaving my cousin. She's still very much trying to deal with the loss of her dad. I think i'm still trying to come to the realization that my uncle is gone. I don't know what's wrong with me but, although i am very sad about it, I haven't cried since the funeral. I guess it just hasn't completely hit me yet. But on the upside, it's nice to finally try to get back to normal after being away from my apartment and from work for the past 2 weeks. I'm so excited to finally get to sleep in my own bed. I hear it calling my name already. I'm really tired from a long day of traveling but i'll be posting my review and pics from the Tampa concert tomorrow. I've also got lots of catching up to do on here as well. First, i gotta get some sleep.

Prettymaid
02-04-2009, 08:12 AM
ticky - sorry to hear about your migraines. My mom had problems with those occasionally until she went through "the change" (aka menopause) and now she never has any. I know they're rough, though.

That's me Soda (or soon to be). I started getting 'monthly' migraines about six years ago, finally had them diagnosed in 2007 and started taking prescription medication for them. However, 'as time goes by' I have fewer and fewer of them and now just keep over the counter medicine on hand for when I get one.

TimothyBFan
02-04-2009, 02:46 PM
Thanks everybody about the migraines. It just freaked me out cuz I havent had one since before I had the embolism about 9 years ago and those were warning signs SO.. Im lil freaked.. but I think they were just from EATING PIZZA AND NOT DRINKING!!! (I get dehydrated really easily) So.. dummy Rhonda is making a point to HYDRATE every freakin day. It gets pretty bad when I get em..sometimes I cant even walk and light is really painful but coffee and chocolate actually HELP. The caffeine restricts the blood flow and helps my poor swollen brain. Anyway, Im better and I appreciate all the well wishes *G* thanks guys


You know you never cease to amaze me--you are an amazing woman! You have overcome so much, the weight loss, health problems, raising kids, still married after so many years, not to mention how talented you are with a computer and the amazing things you whip up for all of us here. Just thought I would tell you what I think! Keep up that great attitude you have also! You go girl!!:thumbsup:

And DF--I sure hope you find a good home for you new friend!!!

ticky
02-04-2009, 03:26 PM
Awe shucks :blush: Thanks :hug: I just do what I gotta do *G* and the rest of it is fun *G*

Molly
02-04-2009, 04:59 PM
That's me Soda (or soon to be). I started getting 'monthly' migraines about six years ago, finally had them diagnosed in 2007 and started taking prescription medication for them. However, 'as time goes by' I have fewer and fewer of them and now just keep over the counter medicine on hand for when I get one.

I guess we could form quite a little migraine club here. Add me to the list of migraine sufferers.

It runs in my family. A few of my siblings have it much worse, sometimes ending up in the hospital as they get sick to their stomachs from the pain and end up dehydrated and in IV's and needing either IV pain meds or injections to get them over the hump.

I'm lucky that way. I can usually tell when I'm going to get one (I get a visual aura of lights). I can often "prevent" it from getting really bad with caffeine and over the counter medications. They seldom sideline me...I just muddle thru it.

I know of people from working at my local hospital who are actually debilitated from migraines. The headaches have ruined their lives.

Molly
02-04-2009, 05:16 PM
Just wanted to pop in quickly and say I'm thinking about everyone here. It seems like more bad stuff has been happening to people than positive things so I'd just like to give everybody a great big "hang in there!"

(((((Brooke))))) (((((Kay))))) (((((Kate))))) (((((Lisa))))) and everyone else struggling with aging parents and their issues. It can be exhausting, I know.

Hubby, boys and I are doing fine. Both Steve and I dodged bullets at work this past week but had to watch co-workers lose their jobs as both of our employers are downsizing with all this economy crap that's going on. It was horrible to see people I've worked with for 20 plus years being escorted out in tears yesterday and today.

Peter turned 21 years old last week and we all survived that as well! Whew!

My extended family has been going thru some tough times in recent weeks. My niece, Tina, passed away December 2nd from cancer.

My niece, Daana, passed away last week unexpectedly. We're all still reeling from that.

A few days ago, my brother Danny (Daana's dad) slipped and fell outside his house. We believe he fell down a couple of cement steps outside his door and hit his head on the concrete. We also think he laid outside a few hours in the cold before he was found (he has frostbitten hands and toes).

He's hospitalized now with a severely fractured skull. He had surgery yesterday to relieve some pressure and drain some blood. Unfortunately, Danny has a bad heart and has been very unstable since his surgery. He's still unconscious and it's very touch and go right now.

I'm doing a lot of soul searching and praying these past few days. It's a very helpless feeling.

A friend of mine said I should be writing all of this down so I can do a screenplay for one of those overly dramatic movies they show on the Lifetime channel. I told her I thought it was a great idea and that I want Valerie Bertinelli to play me. :-)

tbs fanatic
02-04-2009, 06:33 PM
Oh my gosh Molly! How awful. Here's hoping your brother recovers soon. Condolences on your two nieces. I have three lovely nieces and cannot imagine losing one of them at an early age never mind two.

sodascouts
02-04-2009, 07:44 PM
Oh, how horrible, Molly. Not only the loss of your nieces so young, but possibly death of one of their fathers as well! Devastating. I will pray for your family.

Freypower
02-04-2009, 07:59 PM
You and your family have my deepest sympathy, Molly.

DonFan
02-04-2009, 09:34 PM
Molly, I'm so sorry. Your family is in my prayers.