Originally Posted by
TimothyBFan
I told you Monday that I would update all of you regarding Brandon. It took a couple of days because it's just been almost to hard to think about or understand. It was very bad news after the scan. The cancer has not only moved from his lungs and into his bones but this scan showed it was now in his brain. He's been given about 3 months and they have called in hospice.
I spent a great deal of time with Tiff this morning talking and she's still one of the bravest, most amazing people I know. She's keeping it together right now. The thing that she's having the most difficulty with at this time is telling the kids. Their daughter who is 4 doesn't really see what's going on because Dad's always been sick (he was diagnosed right after she turned 2) but their son who is 8 is really having a tough time and is old enough to see Dad getting worse and knows it's not good. She's uncertain how to prepare them for the inevitable but the hospice nurse told her yesterday that they have awesome counseling for children and will help her.
She admitted to me this morning that she's had to battle with her faith these last few months but maintains that is what's getting her thru it but Brandon is p*ssed at God right now. Totally understandable and I just hope he comes to terms with it before it's all over. In my own experience, I truly believe some people cling to their faith or even strengthen it thru something like this where others question or lose it all together. I know that definitely happened with me and I'm still struggling.
In looking thru the old What's Happening thread, I found the post from the day we put my Mom in the hospital in August.....
Little did I know that I was about to lose my 5th love one 3 days later when Mom died and now here we go again only a few months later. It just never seems to end. It happened that way in 2007 when my father was dying of cancer and I lost one of my best friends and an aunt and uncle also.
It's hard to keep the faith when it continues to happen to the people you care so much for.
Sorry I'm such a downer today.