I would just wish her peace today. My husband passed Christmas evening but his date of death was listed as 12/26 @12:06 AM.
My birthday was Jan 18th. I didn't want to celebrate. The next year Glenn passes on my birthday. I found out this sad news right before my son & his girlfriend came over with dinner & cake to celebrate. I am unofficially changing my birthday to July 18th.
It's hard but Cindy is a strong woman with loving children. She will get through today.