Carolyn, the only thing I see that is "disrespectful" here is your latest post towards Soda and Pippinwhite. I was upset by your initial posts, but I feel like this latest post is a step too far.
I was very disappointed to read some of what you read. I think it was condescending and quite rude and I also think you completely missed their points they were trying to make to you.
Soda knows how to run this site, she's been doing it for years. I think the way the board is set up now is perfectly fine. No one needs to be telling her how to run it unless they want to help foot the bill to run said site. The Off-Topic section is fine the way it is, most people don't treat it as their own self-important personal blog where they go on ad nauseam about their own life and how great it is and namedrop celebrities that they've met. There is a "what's happening in your life" thread but its used for occasional updates about how we are doing and it's usually used to wish each other well and also to have some two-sided discussion about our lives without going off the rails about it at the same time. It's more of a "how are you doing lately?" thing. Again it's not treated like a blog page or a Facebook feed. IMO it shouldn't be.
I'm not even going to comment on the photo thing. Other than to say "c'mon!" with the "certain individual" posted a photo challenge comment. Why so passive-aggressive? You know it was Soda, just say her name. Have the intestinal fortitude to say it if you are going to call her out for it!
Pippinwhite also didn't deserve the condescending "I feel sorry for you" bit. Maybe she isn't afraid of saying how she feels, but simply chooses not to. Not because she's afraid of backlash but because she doesn't want to discuss it. Regardless, it wasn't a very nice thing to say. I think Pippinwhite made some good points there, and it seems you glossed right over them to just focus on the fact she isn't sharing her thoughts.
Again, you yourself say you aren't so vested in the Eagles. So again, I must ask - why are you here? If it's just a place to vent or to discuss your life, there are free blog platforms out there or chat rooms, and of course I'm sure you've heard of Facebook, Twitter, etc. Because to me, to come to a site dedicated to fans of a rock n' roll band just to have a place to talk about yourself doesn't really make sense. It's just not the place for it. I'm wanting to make it clear, it's totally fine to want to talk about your life at length and give updates, but a message board for Eagles fans and fans of the individual members is not the right venue for said postings. I also wonder that if you aren't vested in the Eagles, why you care so deeply about what people say about them continuing on without their leader, Glenn Frey? It seems like you have an interest!
I told myself I wouldn't respond to this again but I really felt like standing up for Soda and Pippinwhite after what I felt was a poorly-veiled insult-ridden post. IMO, it was a passive-aggressive personal attack.
I think it's time to take a step back Carolyn and maybe find another platform to post on. I truly think it would serve you better and you'd probably have more of an audience to engage with. Honestly, I mean that.