Yeah, I've dialed down my posting about Glenn on social media as well. Most of my friends on sites like FB and Twitter are more than ready for me to "get over it."
Printable View
Yeah, I've dialed down my posting about Glenn on social media as well. Most of my friends on sites like FB and Twitter are more than ready for me to "get over it."
UTW, this is me. Thank you. This is exactly where I am at the moment. It is horrible. It's just a feeling of emptiness.Quote:
Originally Posted by UndertheWire
I can look at photos of Glenn by himself, but I find it very hard looking at photos of him with the other Eagles.
My posting about Glenn on social media has slowed down a lot (man my Twitter was depressing in the ~three weeks or so after he passed). I still find little things to post about, though, and I try to make them little happy reminders of how great he was. ;)
I think I'm in that resentment stage, too. It's just weird to think of things moving forward in the world without Glenn here.
I hear you, UtW. I am beginning to feel way that as well. At the same time I think I am going further into denial. Now I watch videos of Glenn & listen to his music & in my mind he is still here. While I watch or listen I'm not sad. I'm not thinking of him being gone. This happened while I watched Part 1 of HotE Friday night. Other than a horrible feeling for a moment when Glenn first came on the screen, I was able to stay in the moment & enjoy it. Maybe this is just a sub conscious coping mechanism? Now I feel guilty for not experiencing pain while I watch or listen. :sigh: :worried: :confused:Quote:
Originally Posted by UndertheWire
There is a tendency to compare the way we're handling our grief with others here. We shouldn't do that. Grief is a personal thing, and everybody is different.
I'm always searching..new pictures, videos, comments....etc...I know that soon, much too soon..there'll be nothing new to find...there will be no new google alerts...and that scares me so much...
One of my favorite local classic rock stations is having a tribute show for Glenn this Saturday night! They will be playing his songs, taking requests, and talking about Glenn! I'll be listening!
That's great news, Brooke. I wish we had radio stations like that in South Africa.
I am doing okay with regards to Glenn :heart: having left us, but I will always mourn him. I still mourn Elvis and he has been gone for almost 39 years! I carry on with my life, as I need to keep my eye on the ball. There are many big things happening in my life right now, so I can't afford to get negative.
I've picked up a head cold with all the stress of the last two months, so I need to look after myself now. I think Glenn :heart: would've wanted all of us to look after ourselves.
However, having said that, I totally understand the feelings expressed here in this thread. It makes me sad that some of you are still feeling so sad, angry or resentful. It's all part of grief. I experienced anger too, and resentment, but I guess each phase didn't last very long. I've been trying to think about the joy that Glenn :heart: gave me in his lifetime, and the joy that his music will continue to give me long after he has gone. I have my moments, though, where something triggers tears. When I listened to Jack Tempchin's song for Glenn :heart:, I wept.
PM made a good point about each person grieving is his/her own way. We shouldn't compare. I feel that each person should grieve for as long as they feel is good for them. Anyway one looks at it, the feelings need to be processed. It is not good to suppress them, because they will come out in some way, shape or form.
Strength to you all. :grouphug:
you too?Quote:
Originally Posted by Glennhoney
it's a kick in the heart every time I do.
I honestly don't know what stage I'm in. Denial, probably. I honestly sometimes forget that he is gone. Like Mrs. Frey, I have big things happening in my life, between the medical/ health problems and starting college, so I have to try and stay positive. For me, that in and of itself is hard, but I'm trying. I think that Glenn's death has made all of us stop and think about life. I'm trying to let his quote "I'm too busy livin' to think about dying" become my life saying. One positive thing is that Glenn is finally able to put a smile on my face again.
I'm not upset at Joe and Don for doing things because the events they're doing now have been for good causes, and the shows are later on in the year. They're not immediately going on tour.
Nothing to do with the Banner Soda, but that is EXACTLY how I am feeling too. I know realistically we all have to move on at some stage. My whole life thats left cannot be the blur that the last 6 weeks have been. But it seems wrong and disloyal to Glenn :heart: to envisage a world that he is no longer part of when he was so much part of my world up to now. I just cant get my head around this at all, and I totally agree that the fan community here on the Border, and on FB are great in that we can allow each other to grieve and come to terms with this in our own time and in our own way. Thank you everybody :grouphug:Quote:
Originally Posted by sodascouts
I cried last night for the first time in a few weeks. One of the categories on Jeopardy was "I Sing". The second clue was "Don Henley said of this Eagles co-founder who passed on in 2016 'He was like a brother to me.' ".
I don't know why it set me off, but it did.
Anything can set you off. While I didn't cry over it, I did get a shock today just seeing a guy in light blue jeans with a white t-shirt and a neon pink button-down shirt open over it. I was like "That's Glenn's outfit." He hadn't worn it himself in years but I still thought of him immediately and felt a pang.
Just thinking back to Don saying it would be Glenn's call for when the band ended. At the time, I wondered if this was less about Glenn being in charge and more a recognition that Glenn had chronic health problems and the time would come when he no longer felt able to tour.
It's something we didn't dare to talk about. I know that I looked at the photos from the last tour and noticed the curvature of Glenn's spine and winced a little at his hands. Going back through interviews, I've learned that Glenn's golf-playing had been curtailed by 2012 and there was a hint of how arthritis had changed his game.
Maybe the documentary, the musical, the memoir were projects that gave Glenn something worthwhile to do without the physical demands of touring. And yet, he still loved playing in front of a live audience and it's wonderful he was able to do that almost to the end. And even then, he told Bernie "This is not the end".
Reading about Keith Emerson and how he was no longer able to control his fingers, I though of how frustrating it must have been to no longer be able to do the one thing that has defined his life. Then I thought of Glenn who always seemed to have so many different things going on and so many plans for the future, determined to get the most out of life.
The song that sums up Glenn for me isn't one that he wrote but that he sang.
"Here's To Life"
No complaints and no regrets
I still believe in chasing dreams and placing bets
And I have learned that all you give is all you get
So give it all you've got
I had my share, I drank my fill
And even though I'm satisfied, I'm hungry still
To see what's down another road, beyond a hill
And do it all again
So here's to life
And every joy it brings
Here's to life
To dreamers and their dreams
Funny how the time just flies
How love can go from warm hellos to sad goodbyes
And leave you with the memories you've memorized
To keep your winters warm
But there's no yes in yesterday
And who knows what tomorrow brings, or takes away
As long as I'm still in the game, I want to play
For laughs, for life, for love
So here's to life
And every joy it brings
Here's to life
To dreamers and their dreams
May all your storms be weathered
And all that's good get better
Here's to life
Here's to love
And here's to you
I always thought that Here's To Life sounded like his theme song.Quote:
Originally Posted by UndertheWire
You mentioned the curvature of his spine. That was something that I had noticed about him from the seventies on. Do you think that it worsened in recent years?
I used to worry a lot about the bandages on his hands - but because I thought they world eventually signal a time when he would not be able to PLAY again - I never actually thought that The Arthritis would ultimately kill him. I thought that After Hours was also a test to see if he could branch more into singing with less of an emphasis on playing (ie letting other musicians do it for him) in preparation for the day when he would KNOW that he could not play to his highest standards any more.
I'm so so sorry that we have lost him but a tiny bit of me rejoices that he did not have to go through the pain of having to make the decision to quit.
Yes. I noticed it because I saw my father become more bent over the years as his spine deformed. Glenn always had poor posture when singing with a guitar but if you look at the photos from the Farewell 1 tour and compare with the HotE tour, there's a noticeable difference.Quote:
Originally Posted by GlennLover
I noticed that too about him and I agree that in a way I'm glad it didn't get to the point where he couldn't play guitar or piano anymore. My maternal grandmother's had RA since the early 90s and it progressed fast (and she didn't take some of the meds by choice). She had to relearn how to do everything and refused to let anyone but her take care of my grandfather before he passed, which always amazed me how strong she was. I knew she was and is in pain sometimes but she'll never let you know. It does have a high risk for infections too and we're always so cautious around her, even if she doesn't like it. LOL But she really has learned how to live with it. Just now I worry about it too because it can be inherited and my Mom is currently being tested for it as she has signs of some type of arthritis, and my grandmother's even told me I inherited a lot of her and my Mom's features and hopefully that's just it. It is something I'll have to watch as I age just like my Mom currently is, and with what happened to Glenn it's just hit even more close to home.
I was hanging the Don Henley poster I got at the Nashville show yesterday and all of the sudden I remember how, when I got it, I was thinking about when I might see Glenn again. I got choked up. It is funny what can make you emotional but I can deal with it much better now. I wouldn't call it "moving on" so much as learning to live with the reality that he is gone.
That's how I was feeling too Soda, like I was learning to deal with it better. Then this week something changed and I'm just as emotional as I was a month ago :depressed:
Yeah it is funny how sometings can set you off. But for me Eric Clapton's Tears In Heaven. I always break down crying when I here it because it reminds me of my Grandmother who passed away in 2014 of Alzheimer's, She had it for over 20 years and I never knew her I just remover her bring sick and I started to get into trouble in school again because it was just really emotional time for me.I absolutely can not listen to that song
I can'tell believe it is 2 months today Glenn has been gone...still seems like a bad dream that I'm gonna wake up from...:weep:
I know, right? It feels like it's been years since it happened.
Slightly related, but in fact, I hardly remember daily life before January 18th, as weird as that sounds. All the mundane stuff happening in my life, all the things I had been worrying about, completely didn't matter once I found out about Glenn.
For me, that song reminds me of my dad. I cherish the 11 years I got with him because some kids don't get that many. His death caused me problems at school as well, especially making the transition from elementary school to middle school 6 months after he passed. School didn't matter to me much for a year. Actually, nothing mattered to me during that time period. Tears in Heaven has set me off several times over the years.Quote:
Originally Posted by travlnman2
Back to Glenn, wow 2 months. I hadn't thought of that before I readit here. It completely slipped my mind because of what I had done today.(teeth pulled). When I was last at dentist's office to haven a filling done back in December, Desperado played on the radio just as they were numbing me up. Hearing the song made me relax. I thought of that today when I was filling out paperwork beforehand. It put a smile on my face. (The radio was good today as well, playing Fleetwood Mac's Little Lies) i don't have the concert experiences most borderers have, so that something like that I cherish.
As I said in the press thread, I bought the RS magazine with the Cameron Crowe article. It arrived Wednesday. I read over it last night before bed and the other article about what lead to Glenn's death. The pages got a little damp because of my tears. It still seems raw and unreal.
While my worries before Glenn's passing remain the same (college, my future, my health problems etc), I've noticed that I'm thinking differently. Glenn's death has been an eye opener for me to get off of my butt and do something with my life, to extract joy from it. I've been stuck in a rut for nearly two years, and I need to move forward, which I'm now doing.
I think thats a good way of putting it Soda. January 18th is a big watershed for me. Seems like everything that has happened me was 'before' of 'after' that date. I'm slowly starting to play more of my Glenn :heart: cd's and videos etc. Like you putting up the poster I felt it when I saw Don and Joe starting their solo projects and I had that awful feeling that we would not experience that for Glenn :heart: again. It feels like he too has been cheated as well as his fans. And there are still so many little things that I associated him with that now chokes me up.Quote:
Originally Posted by sodascouts
Theres a lot of people out there who really think I should be 'over' this by now, but thankfully I also have some very good friends who know how I'm feeling on a day to day basis and I am very thankful for them. AG you say how this has changed your attitude to life. For me it has changed my idea of and attitude to death. Not in any kid of a morbid way. Just I used to be afraid of it, unsure about afterlife etc. Now I'm not afraid anymore
In a way it's hard to believe it's been 2 months because I still sometimes can't believe he's gone but then in other ways I feel like it happened awhile ago. For me it's both had me realize that time goes way too fast and made me become more concerned about my parents.
My parents are in the early to mid 50s now and they were Eagles fans first and it's got me more realizing they won't be around forever. And with my Mom's health issues and her having upcoming surgery for carpel tunnel my brother and I are going to be helping out more often. It's also got me thinking more about my Dad too as not only in some photos he resembles Glenn but in the things I've read about Glenn my Dad's personality is similar (as is my own LOL).
Then now that I'm almost 30 I really need to get my life where I want it to be. I went back to college a couple years ago and if everything goes to plan I'll finally graduate next year. I also went through an almost writer's block from my novels after Glenn passed as I was just so thrown. I had to abandon the story I was working on but finally another idea started emerging these past few weeks that I'm now working on. :) I know he wouldn't want me giving up on my writing and I'm still editing my 4th self-published novel that I want to get out this year. Plus, hopefully this waiting for the right guy will pay off too now that I'll be in my 30s soon. LOL
So it's just got me thinking more about life and I guess really becoming an adult and taking charge of it.
My father and Glenn are only a few months apart in age. Recently, my dad's cancer came back and Glenn's death has really stirred up a lot of emotions I was suppressing before regarding my dad's health. It makes it all too real.
Well said everyone. I was going to post something here yesterday, but just didn't feel up to it. I mentioned this a few weeks ago, but I have hardly listened to any music at all since Glenn's death. The Eagles have been 'my band' ever since I heard Take It Easy on the radio in the summer of '72. I had also loved The Beatles and was sad when they broke up. But, perhaps it was because I was a little more mature when the Eagles emerged that I connected so intimately with their music in a way I never did with any other band before or since. I was devastated when they broke up. I guess I was somewhat mollified by Don's and Glenn's solo music and the classic radio stations that kept their music alive for me. Even though I liked some of the 80's music, no other artist ever came close to replacing my beloved Eagles. By the early 90's, I was focused on my career and started losing interest in music altogether for a short while. Then, we all know what happened in '94. However, despite my best efforts, I was unable to sync my work travel schedule up to get to see a HFO show. So, although my love for them never waned, it was not until May, 2003 that I realized my almost lifelong dream of seeing them play live. I didn't get the opportunity to see them again until March, 2005, which was when I decided that I was going to try my best to make up for lost time. So for the next 10+ years, I did exactly that. And I will never regret going to a single Eagles-related event up to my last show in July of last year. So January 18th has indeed left a huge hole in my world - not to sound melodramatic, but it does feel like it was the day the music died for me. As Soda said, time will help us all deal with the reality of living in this world without Glenn or the Eagles in it. I hope I will soon be able to enjoy music again, but I doubt that things will ever be the same for me in that regard. So as the title of this thread says - for me, Glenn may be gone, but he will never be forgotten.
My parents are both in their early 70s. They just left after a week's visit. Yesterday, my father was dealing with a lot of arthritis pain and was grumbling about how much he hated getting old. I said "Getting old is better than the alternative" and thought of Glenn, who never made it to his 70s. When they left today, I gave both of them big hugs and told them how much I loved them. Yeah, it definitely changes your perspective.
Hope your Dad feels better soon Soda, its not easy seeing your parents health failing. I find I'm telling all my friends that I love them now - more than I ever did before. I guess it has been brought home to us that this thing called life is a lot more precarious than we realised.
My dad tells me he is in pain all the time. He can't take strong pain medication anymore because it damages his liver. I feel so bad for him! There are good days and bad days, but he says the pain is always there. He hides it in public and nobody outside the family hears him complain. I guess Glenn was probably the same way.
My nana is 95 and she has arthritis fairly badly. Having cerebral palsy puts me at increase risk for arthritis and it'll show up sooner than in normal people. Even now I can feel the effects of the deformed joints. My mom and uncle, who are in their 50s, are starting to develop arthritis.
This awkward conversation my mom and I had this afternoon reminded me just how short life could be, and that I need to enjoy life and do something more.
I'm eating lunch in the living room, and am still feeling yucky from yesterday. My mom sits down in her chair. She has a serious look on her face.
Her: You're old enough now that we need to discuss something.
Me: What do we need to discuss?
Her: Your funeral arrangements and wishes, in case something happens.
Me:WHA??????? :huh::huh:
My mom then asks several questions about what I would want done. NY answers consisted of "I don't know" or "I don't care".
After about the 6th question, I spoke up.
Me: Mom, I'm 20. I haven't thought about this stuff and I don't want to. I shouldn't have to worry about this stuff for a long time.
Her: Your dad was only 49 when he died. He never told me his wants and wishes, so your brother and I had to wing it. I don't want to have to wing yours, if necessary. You never know what can happen.
I told my mom that I would have to think about it, and get back to her. I honestly don't care what she does about most things related to this if I die before her, but she is right about not knowing what can happen. Reality has slapped me if the face. Don't take tomorrow for granted. If there's one positive thing that I took from Glenn's death, it's that. Us youngsters do tend to take life for granted.
Ones own death is the last thing that would be on any 20 year olds mind Kim. But your mom and Grandma have been through this with your dad. It's left its mark and they feel vulnerable and anxious that if something were to happen you they'd want to do it right. If it was one of my kids I'd want to do it right too. My husband and I (I sound like the queen) have a good idea what the other person would like in this event too. Why don't you just jot down a few ideas on a page and give them to your mom and grandma? They'll feel better and you'll have them off your back too.
Ga, that's a great idea for Kim.
Soda, I'm so sorry about your Dad being in so much pain. Prayers for him.
Thanks for that idea, Ga. I'll do that.
Tiger Darrow Remembers Studying Under the Eagles' Glenn Frey at NYU
In reading this article about a student of Glenn Frey's when he was teaching at NYU it's heartwarming to know the positive effect/impact he had on his students and what they may accomplish in years to come because of him.
http://www.dallasobserver.com/music/...at-nyu-7946433
Watch YouTube video of Tiger Darrow's song Aqua Vitae at above link - she's amazing.
Some wonderful pics of Glenn Frey at Steinhardt NYC and beautiful remembrances from faculty and students:
http://steinhardt.nyu.edu/news/2016/...ey_Remembrance
What a heartfelt article. How lucky were those students who got to share Glenn's wisdom.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dawn
Thanks for sharing.
What a heartfelt article. How lucky were those students who got to share Glenn's wisdom.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dawn
Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for finding that Dawn. Tiger is very talented and she and her classmates were definitely very lucky to have Glenn as a mentor.
I reread the post in another thread with Jack Tempchin's poem that he wrote for Glenn and it put me in a reflective mood. Unfortunately, that mood is filled with sadness. I'm sure there will be a day when I read it again and be comforted by it.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Ive always been a dreamer
You're welcome - I couldn't agree with you more - Glenn had a special relationship with the students in his class and it's heartwarming to know how much they benefited from and appreciated his talent and enthusiasm.
Dawn